What about the support structure? Brag on who helps see you through here

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_Christina
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   Posted 2/18/2009 7:26 PM (GMT -7)   
I wanted to tell you all about my husband who has been unconditionally supportive through everything.  I was told almost exactly one year ago that I had the elevated Rh factor, and then went through everything that comes after that initial shock.  He has been with me as I try out medications that made me wonder if the disease wasn't better than the cure.  He has been there with me when flare after flare made me unable to care for the house and kids and he had to take over housework on top of working his job and going to school. He has been there with me even though if there was ever a reason to leave, finding out that I had a degenerative, expensive, disabling disease would be a big reason to. I don't know what I would do without my husband- and I just needed to tell someone that a big part of my living through this condition is that I have had him (gently) holding my hand.
 
I know that other people must have someone in their life that has been the support they needed just when arthritis was getting the best of them.  Sometimes the best way to validate that is to let others know.  Tell me about it here.
 
Christina

mamakitty
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   Posted 2/18/2009 10:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello,
 
I know just what you are talking about, I also have a wonderful hubby of 43 years who has been by my side watching over me through it all, when it started way back in my 20`s.
I do not know how i would get through most days if i didn`t have him, he cheers me up so much as i have a family that thinks this is all in my head, my older sister knows because she has it to so we help each other. 
 
I do agree with you we do need to let our hubbys know just how much we do thank them and love them for what they do.  God Bless You and Your Hubby I hope you are as happy as we are and have been.
 mamakitty
 
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Kangaroo
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   Posted 2/20/2009 6:14 AM (GMT -7)   

 

 

Thanks Christina

I give my vote this post

I do at times get tired of the  long faces, but I must stress those close to me out big time. confused Like me, I am sure my family wishes this dreaded disease would loose its self.

Nevertheless they are still here and have been through the thick and  thin with me.

They could of walked away, but naw, they stayed.

What a great idea to give praise to those who are our backbone!

Blessings and praise to my hubby, Ross and my 3 beautiful children, Matt, Heather and Liz xxxooo turn Three big grateful cheers- Hi pip Hooray!!!



DebbieLou

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_Christina
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   Posted 2/20/2009 6:47 AM (GMT -7)   
yay! I'm so glad that this is catching on. keep it coming. post something small that was done to support you that has made a big impact in your life.

for me, one of my best friends stopped commenting on the condition of my livingroom and kitchen when he saw I didn't feel well. He stepped up and cleaned up till it was the level that he is used to for cooking in my house. He can tell when I just can't keep up and takes up the slack without complaining.

Christina

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   Posted 2/21/2009 6:13 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't have arthritis as bad as many of you, but I do still need help with some things considering that I have OA in my fingers. So I would have to say that the best support I have is, of course, my husband. However, he works all day and when he gets home, I have already done most the stuff. It just takes me longer :) I do though have the help from my teenage children. They are always there to help me when I ask them (when they are around that is). I have other health issues and I have never been so lucky as to have my 2 kids understand the way they do. When I ask for help they never complain - how many teenagers do you know like that eh?? lol
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_Christina
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   Posted 2/21/2009 9:07 PM (GMT -7)   
It seems the best kids are given to those of us who need them.  My 4, 8 and 10 y/o girls have taken to the change in the family very well.  They love to have me home in the day, and are great at taking on jobs that are just too much.  with laundry- I can do most of it, but pulling the wet clothing from the top loading washer to the side loading drier just hurts my hands and wrists too much.  The two older girls will step on the step stool and switch the laundry for me.  My oldest can do the rest- but the others are still learning.  Even my 4 y/o tries to do my buttons and tie my shoelaces so "mommy doesn't have to do it all the time."  They are so sweet.
 
Christina

Red_34
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   Posted 2/22/2009 6:31 AM (GMT -7)   
When my OA acts up, I have a hard time transferring clothes from the washer to dryer too. I have front loaders and it's a bit easier then the top loader - lol but not by much! When my neck starts to bother me and my hands at the same time, I usually have my husband do the transfer for me or one of my kids. Children are amazingly adaptable and love to help their parents. It makes them feel important that they can offer their help. I used to be a Girl Scout leader and each week I would have one of the girls do the chore of Leader - they would just puff up their chest with pride it was so cute! Now that my kids are older (13 & 17) they aren't home as much but when they are, all I have to do is ask for help.
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