Hi Loomis and welcome to HW and the RA forum
I have'nt had anything like what you are describing your wife experiences.
Has your wife had xrays/scans done and does she see a Rheumy?
Has she been tested for Fibromyalgia? Not sure if that is the symptoms of that either, just throwing it out there.
Sorry I was'nt much help.
Please let us know how she is doing.