My daughter does what you son does, stinging little remarks. Eventually they add up and really hurt your feelings. You know I understand my children do not know what to make of this change in me and my life, I sure don't. But we have to realize that the old Susie is gone, a thing of the past and the Susie now is what you get.
My son called me today and asked me to help his wife with a garage sale on Friday. And then he said or will that be a day you aren't feeling good. I told him as far as I was concerned unless things changes I would be glad to help her, but I cannot predict what day will be a bad day for me. They just don't get it.
I do not mind you asking me any questions at all about the pump. I will be glad to answer any questions that I can for you. Hugs,
I hate to hear about your son's problems, but it sounds like you have offered him every kind of help available and he is just not interested. Thats too bad because he so young. He will regret this one day. But, he is also at the age they think they know it all and they know best. I remember my 2 at that age, both in their 30's now.
I am very glad to hear you found someone and ended up getting married. Thats great, because you still deserve a life, your life was not over as you have found out. I am sure your son had some problems dealing with that, but I am sure by now he has come to terms with it.
My husband is very intelligent man, however, when it comes to his own health issues, he is absolutely the stupidist person I have ever ran across. Its like he thinks he can defy all odds and I'm gonna show that dr. Well, the idiot is the one that pays the fiddler. I get real upset with him and ask why take up the drs time and spend the money if you are not going to do what needs to be done. I use to just stay in a knot over him. I was at our dr one day, and he just laid out the cards to me, he said Susie you have so many health issues and any of them can land you in the hospital at any given time, so I want to you to promise me that you will not worry yourself to the point of making yourself sick, cause you cannot control what Charley does or what happens to Charley, he is a grown man, you need to spend your time taking care of yourself. You know something, after my dr said that you me, I said to myself he is right and I can't let Charley drag me down. It was hard but it is do-able, especially when you chronic illness of your own. Ok, enough about this crap. LOL.
Hope so far everyone has had a decent day. Hugs, Susie
Effie, Susie, Erin,
My heart aches when I read your posts about the way your loved ones treat you, regarding your illness. My children do not understand why mom can't do the things she use to do, but they have never made hateful remarks. My husband knows I am in pain, but does not really have a clue why. He is very supportive, but he is always after me to get out and do more, so I will feel better. Wish it were that easy,
Susie, I am glad you decided to take your doctor's advice, because as he said, no one can make your hubby follow doc's orders except himself. And as you said, those of us with a chronic illness have to focus on ourselves, and keep the stress level down, in order to survive.
Erin, I agree with you, it may be a defense mechanism for some,or just denial, not wanting to accept what is happening to loved one.
Effie, I wish there were wonderful words of wisdom we could all give you, that would make your son do an about face, and understand what his mom is going through.Sadly I have none. I do think you are on the right track by keeping yourself in therapy to learn methods to help you cope with him. Words can pierce just like a sword. I pray that he will realize one day just how bad he has hurt you, and become the son you know is inside his body.
My thoughts, hopes and prayers are with you all,