Hey Morticia, Vent away! I'm sorry you're feeling so poorly. We all try to avoid this board when we're doing well--for me, I feel like I'm going to jinx my health if I come here when I'm doing absolutely great.
From my experience, an experienced rheumatologist who's not afraid to use the big guns can put most cases of RA (and similar AI diseases) into remission. But it takes time. I was diagnosed 4 years ago; exactly one year ago, my condition seriously worsened. It's only now that I'm taking 3 DMARDs in addition to pain killers that something is starting to happen. Hang tough, and think positive. And don't be afraid to try certain drugs--you can always stop taking them if you don't like the way you feel on them.