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Ducky
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   Posted 6/4/2007 5:32 AM (GMT -7)   
yeah   yeah   yeah Previous thread can be reached here.. Please keep Moanin'... yeah yeah yeah
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   Posted 6/4/2007 8:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Ho hum....my hands hurt today....the weird thing is, my SKIN hurts too...I wonder if my psorisis is about to haywire on my hands....I haven't had a breakout there since I was on Remicade....I'm kinda worried...I could NOT control the outbreak on my hands and it always HURT so bad as well as looked completely disgusting. Any suggestions? I've been lotioning and lotioning all day every day for a few days now......

Hope everyone's week started out okay.
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   Posted 6/4/2007 9:58 PM (GMT -7)   

Camama, I haven't had any skin issues with arthritis, not yet, I should say. 

Barely made it through the day today.  Muscle weakness like never before.  Hard to explain to the "earth people".  Hubby kept asking what was wrong (I guess because I kept dropping the clothes he had just cleaned onto the floor).  I finally just came home and got under the covers and cried all afternoon.  These overly abnormal days don't usually get to me like that.  When he asked me to describe my pain I really cut loose.  He was worried about me and kept coming by and calling to check on me. 

I suppose this is just part of those flairs I get.  Muscles just feel like wet dish rags.  Do any of you get days like this?  I'm really curious as they're coming more and more.  sad


The Bear
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   Posted 6/5/2007 1:22 AM (GMT -7)   
[[[[[[[[[HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGSSSSSSSSSSSSS]]]]]]]] OF THE BIGGEST BEAR VARIETY. FEEL WELL AGAIN SOON BOO.
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*****Ok, this is the biggest I could get it without it stretching out the page*****
 
Thanks Bear, we love you and your HUGE BEAR HUGS! tongue

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The Bear
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   Posted 6/5/2007 1:49 AM (GMT -7)   
hI AGAIN Boo, a miisunderstanding. I went to the isle of Wight to visit some of my volunteer organisers and see how things were going [I work on the UK RSVP programme something like your Seniors volunteer programme] but the festival i mentioned was in 1970 when an estimated 800,000 pople 'invaded' the island to attend a festival that catered for 50,000 and it was the last public concert given by one James Marshal Hendrix among many that are now in the festival in the sky. Pete cetera, Jim Morrison, most of Canned Heat, it's kinda hard to tell whether Kris Kristofferson has ever been alive. He suffered the indignity of being booed off an impromptu session on the Thursday and being booed on to the stage on The Friday!!!!!! Tiny Tim was a joke, but not very funny in the least, Ten Years After couldn't quite recreate the magic of Woodstock, Leonard Cohen was brilliant but that's just my opinion.
Was it you who said your man only liked C & W? It reminds me of the part in the Blues Brothers film where the road house owner in response to the question ' What kind of music do you like here M'am'? responded 'We like both kinds, country and western'.
 
Ther bear cub is in a hard core punk/rock band which is beyond even my comprehension. I even found a couple of Linda Ronstad albuums in my vinyl and I haven't a clue where they ca.me from. NICE VOICE SHAME about THE SONGS.
 
mUST WORK.
gET WELL
 
The bear

iMarzz
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   Posted 6/5/2007 4:49 AM (GMT -7)   
ok so I got home from the Rheumy and my husband "King Solomon" says so what did he say. I tell him I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and he says "So what's the big deal you knew you had arthritis." I told him to look it up in his Funk and Wagnels (SP). The next day he's screaming why didn't I bring in the garbage pail that's blocking the driveway. I give up.

Boo
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   Posted 6/5/2007 1:14 PM (GMT -7)   
iMarzz, I hear ya. We have similar conversations here.
Bear, thanks for the hug. I needed that. I love country music but I've got every kind programmed in. I'm married to a cowboy but it doesn't limit me. Heehee.
Thanks too for the walk down memory lane. That was good music.

Came home for brief respite. Sometimes I wonder how my employees go to the bathroom by themselves. They were going to pick my brain clean if I didn't get out of there. Pain makes me very anti-social especially when stupid questions that have been asked a million times are involved. Going to rest a little while. Boo

The Bear
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   Posted 6/5/2007 1:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi iMarzz. Something I miss here? Like your man is armless and legless and totally incapable of moving a garbage pail not to mention a medical dictionary? Who change his............ no I got in touble last time I said something but we men get a hard time - justified for most of it - from women but we do say some crass things. I'm sorry to hear your formal DX I hope you have good support networks around you and here is a great place to be particularly on this thread. As the token male - don't men get arthritis so bad that they want to talk about how they are affected? - I feel made most welcome even if I am a refugee from another forum.
Hey Boo, how ya feeln today?
Yalinda - I haven't been shot at lately - whassamarra? run out of ammo girl? lol.
Gone 9 at night and I'm still working doing funding bids to keep my volunteers in expenses for the work they do. hohum.
Found some gems among my vinyl - Tom Lehrer - I've been singing 'poisoning the pigeons in the park' all day much to the amusement of the bear cub.
Stay well people.
The Bear

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   Posted 6/5/2007 1:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Moanin..

Having a flare this week and the MTX doesn't seem to be working. Family and home life is crummy as hubby and I are having some trouble it looks like we will be going to see a marriage counselor and talk some things over as it is not good right now..Stress is awful for RA and things are stressful right now. I feel bad for the kiddos, today is my 4th year wedding anniversary and while I took my daughter for an appointment my sons who are 13 and 15 made desserts for our anniversary..homemade. It was the sweetest thing, that they worked together, cleaned the house, baked and put 4 candles on top of the desserts they made. They wanted to cheer me up!

Sorry to vent but nobody to really talk to, thats a scary thought! I hope everyone else is doing well though.

iMarzz
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   Posted 6/5/2007 2:16 PM (GMT -7)   
That's how I feel --- like I have no one to talk to. Wrists still hurting like H _ _ _. Hubby has Osteo in his Right pointer finger and you would think it was a brain tumor!!! The way he thinks maybe it is.

Thank God you are all here.

Boo
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   Posted 6/5/2007 2:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, I started answering the last post to mom, lost everything. Darn this computer.
We're here for you, Sweetie. I know it's hard and you probably feel responsible for the "mood" in the home, no matter who put it there. Counseling is a good thing here. I highly recommend it. (what happened to the form here? Ugh!) When left to my own devices, trying to explain this disease to the husband person can get me in a heated discussion and later a pile of mush. Many years ago he bought me kitchen apron (wretch) that had the words to a Garth Brooks song "She was standing in the kitchen with nothin' but her apron on".....He has asked several times why I never had it on when he came home. OMG! The last time he asked I told him I couldn't even tie the ****ed thing and if he asked me again I was going to choke him with it. I moan and groan just trying to turn over in bed at night let alone anything else......
Please don't let me be an example. I'm sure there are many women who have conquered that part of this disease. I'm not one of them. So counseling is a great idea. At least you can learn some ways to communicate. You're a great mother, I can tell from your posts. You have too much on your shoulders to be "the Sunshine of the Family" all the time. You need some help and understanding. I love the responses from The Bear Man. Now this is a guy who knows what respect is.

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   Posted 6/5/2007 5:18 PM (GMT -7)   
I was going to ask too...why do the posts streeeeeeeetch out the way they do?? Just curious? Ducky? :)

The problem is that my husband seems to be in some sort of "slump" his word, and my 15 year old son is bored now that summer has started and he has become terribly difficult to manage and even defiant with my husband and myself (this is step dad) and last night it got totally out of hand and my husband who is very mild mannered and much calmer than I usually am in the midst of whining and bickering. My oldest was back talking and told us he would take his time going to his room, and my husband lost his temper with my son,he was up out of the chair and up the stairs in a flash and it was an ugly scene. My boys came from an abusive home with lots of yelling and wall punching from their bio dad and it can't happen HERE. They must have a safe and nurturing environment...my daughter was barely 3 when I divorced, so she does not have the memories they do, and the last thing I want are anymore of those kinds of memories imprinted on them. The yelling scared my 13 year old son because he doesn't do well with raised voices and he was cowering because of it..that is something I can't get out of my mind. However, my oldest was not backing down and was going toe to toe with his step dad..After it was over, my husband sat everyone down and talked and apologized for all that took place etc etc. But geez I just don't know....I have nobody I can talk to about this situation, its a pretty lonely feeling and I feel so isolated here with the kids and I. I don't have any money, I don't have a job, and I don't have anywhere to go...we pretty much have zip, zero, zilch without my husband. I feel by staying in the situation it is saying to the children its ok for this to happen, and that he (my husband) is more important than my son. On the other hand they have been through one divorce and to go through another would be terribly tramatic and then what would they do? They do love their step dad...An aside from this incident he is a good dad/husband/provider. But it was a terrible thing to see and for my kiddo..To top it off his mom bought this house for us new three years ago and while it is in our names I doubt she would let the children and I have it!

Is there a therapy board on Healing Well??? There should be!!

Thank you for listening and I will try not to be too much of a depressing downer after all this IS about arthritis and not counseling. Oh Boo, bless your heart!! Sounds like your hubby needs a lesson from Bear, he is a gem isn't he? But seriously, he should KNOW you can't tie it, or maybe offer to tie it for you, then you could wear it every now and again. Men!! I'm so sorry your RA is so painful for you..Gentle hugs.

yalinda
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   Posted 6/5/2007 5:28 PM (GMT -7)   
hey everyone- hows it going?  sorry to hear everyone is in a flare what is it? barometric pressure or what?! 
 
bear sry i haent haranged you lately but i too am in a funk!  yes even brass new yorkers get down and out in pain. 
every dang part of my body is screamming at me in pain.  i have barely made it through work and just getting washed and dressed for wrk is a chore!
what the heck is up!?!!!!! 
 
marzz sounds like ur hubby is from mars!  i feel so bad when i hear stories like that from peps. 
i guess i am a lucky one my hubby asks very little of me and frankly i am not always nice to him
when i dont feel well.  i always have been the control freak and not being able to do that has been hard.
i think he loves it! lol lol lol   i use to wake up early esp weekends and start the list of things needed to be done and we would work all day til late without a break.  now i just cant do it and dont care anymore.  still havent planted flowers i bought 3 weeks ago. 
 
i am happy just to dress myself lately hence my bunner mode not posting to bring anyone else down with me. 
 
last week killed me no rest for the wicked did me in......... so bear you'll have to take a rain check on my harrassing
but hopefully i will be in your den stealing your berries real soon! lol 
 
take care everyone hugs to all
 
oh i looked up alpsey or whatever u call it on line  duke of wellington huh?  no caves there!

Ducky
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   Posted 6/5/2007 5:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey there.. Ok, I fixed it.. Hey Bear, sorry I had to edit your Big Bear Hug.. that's what was causing the page to stretch out like it was.. let me try something, and I may be able to get it back.. :)
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Ducky
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   Posted 6/5/2007 5:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Momto3 - You can come here and vent anytime.. This is a forum for Arthritis, BUT, we are still here for anything that our members need.. You can always make a new thread and post til your hearts content.. We are all here for you, we will be your therapy! :) Take good care..

Much love you all you guys... this truly is the best forum out there!

Duck
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yalinda
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   Posted 6/5/2007 6:50 PM (GMT -7)   
mom u must have been typing the same time i was? gosh i just came back and my heart goes out to you.
not walking in your shoes it is hard to comment other than we are here for you and support you. think carefully about your choices in life and the examples you set for your children. i would keep an open dialog at home on this one seek help if you think you need it too. i really dont see any excuses for any fists ever to fly. i am certain bear will tell it like it is for you. my heart is here for u mom 23 hugs yalinda

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   Posted 6/5/2007 7:42 PM (GMT -7)   
smurf  hey ya'll
aww man...i am so broken hearted to hear of the "couples" trouble going on. sad
one thing is for sure...an illness can either draw people together or pull them apart.
the name of the book leaves my mind...but if you go to the arthritisfoundation's website, there is a book a man wrote about his marriage & going through it with his wife who has some AI issue or something chronic.
it's one thing when you start a relationship "knowing" what you're in store for...but to "get sick" well into one is a little harder. {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}
just know that we're all here for one another even when it regards family & spouses.
 
this book however got rave reviews from men...i suppose because it was written by one!
 
i bumped up to the top of the threads the  "RF 101" for babyplace & a few other peeps inquiring about RF & some rheumatic panels. :-)
 
went for my infusion today.  {and a loooong day it was!}
so if i failed to mention...last month i had a reaction to the Remicade, a serum sickness that occured 3 days post infusion.  was very very sick for about 4 weeks.  so this time we doused me with loads of benadryl & steroids & tylenol.
so far so good.  so it's a wait and watch now.
 
peace/love
erin
 
 
 
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The Bear
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   Posted 6/6/2007 1:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there andw elcome to downtown Apsley where the bear counsellor is 'in'.
Who loooked up Apsley and saw the Duke of Wellington? Nothing to with Apsley - but he did live in Apsley House which is situated on Hyde Park Corner in London. I never did find out why the Apsley connection thugh. On my to do list.
 
Momto3 - I'm noy goona down on hubby but you do say some very pertinent things there.
1. hubby is normally the mild mannered man.
2. he hasn't flared in this way before?
3. Your kids grew up in a violent 1st relationship
3. your boy is 15!!!!!
4. he is also the eldest of three
5. Your kids love your hubby!!!!
Is there any way that you can facilitate a round table meet with hubby and son and talkthrough the incident and how and why each reacted in the way they did? It could be a start to better understanding especially because of number three.
 
Your boy is carrying around all sorts of smeg that goes with being a 15 years old boy - the bear cub is the same age and we have our disagreements butI know better than to roar at him now as he doesn't respond to it and can cause him to exploit the situation. I came from a home where - for many reasons I didn't find out until after my mother's death - would be termed violent by todays standards. My mother's first instinct was to lash out with anything in her hand. For that reason my cub knows I will never hit him no matter what the provocation or circs.
At 15 I have those 'I'll take my time doing..' moments and I have learnt to cut him some slack and things will happen eventually. What you have is two stags rutting in the same patch of forest.
One skirmish a war does not make but you must find a way - all of you together - to try and ensure that such a skrmish doesn't happen again in the same way. There is much to say about jawjaw not warwar it's a pity our political leaders don't feel the same way. Don't beat yourself up emotionally YET. There are many ways you can sort this out together but that's what t must be, together. It won't work with a 15 year old any more saying the 'this is my home and while you live in it..........' That is jsut grist to the mill. As for hubbies 'slump'. get him to talk to you about t. It took me long enoough to learn how to tell people how I really feel about issues .....I grew up in a culture that spawned the attitude of the strong man who kept everything in AND WAS ADMIRED FOR IT  and then he went home and tookit out on the wife and kids. How many men saw it/knew about it and stayed silent? Only now is it becoming accepted that bullying - overt or covert - isn't acceptable. [and there are many different modes of behaviour that come under bullying, some we donot even recognise as such]. nono
iMARZZ; you are not a bad mother you are an ill mother trying not to show that you are ill and although it is hard to cope with now your kids will love you even more for it when they are old enough to appreciate it. What you need to do with hubby is ask him to give his brain a rest, sit on it and listen deeply to yoou without, for once, thinking about himself if that is at all possible. nuff said. yeah
I too am sorry to hear about so much physical and emotional unrest it makes my problems seem small in comparison and helps keep me firmly grounded.
 
Great to hear from ya yally even if you are married to a country and western lover  - it takes all sorts, he's more to be oitied than scolded I can assure you. Tell him I've got a couple of Ronstad LP's he can have. Don't ask me how I come to have them - I really don't know. Must have been part of a job lot I bought at auction some years ago and I was so traumatised to find what I had bought I blocked the memory out!!!!!!!! tongue
'New York is cold but I like where I'm living, the music on Vincent Street all through the evening'
 
I'm off work again, leg too apinfull to walk on, it looks llike my trusty crutches are coming out of the cupboard earlier than expected. It looks like I willbe going to washington on crutches in July, I can't see my leg getting any better than it is now.
Any offers for cocktails on the Potomac or a picnic on CCongress Hill? I won't tell if you don't tongue tongue tongue tongue tongue
 
The bear is all burnt out and closing down his shop so from downtown Apsley where the Duke of Wellington never lived, too many yuppies now live and where the locals think sex is something the farmers put potatoes in.
growling off and stay well.
The Bear

The Bear
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   Posted 6/6/2007 1:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Ducky and Erin sorry if I went on a bit too long there - off work and nobody to talk to.
Growl

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   Posted 6/6/2007 5:00 AM (GMT -7)   
Good morning everyone. Last night I left a very simple article about RA on the kitchen table where he sits and reads while he eats. I asked him to read it and he just tossed it aside and continued to read the newspaper. Maybe I should leave it in the bathroom (his library). This morning I asked him to feel my wrists and my arm to show him the heat in my wrists - quess who couldn't feel anything.

I guess I'll just do what I have to do for myself and what I can around here and ignore him. He's unbelieveable! So selfish I could cry.

So I'm off to make myself a cheesecake I saaw Giada Delaurentiis make yesterday.

Have a good day all.

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   Posted 6/6/2007 5:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi all,
Oh Bear, sorry you, too are hurting, here's hoping you get to feeling better really soon!!
Same for everyone else, Guess it gives new meaning to the "all for one and one for all" phrase...seems like when one is hurting, everyone else is as well. Even though I'm sort of the new kid on the block, you you are all an important part of my day. Just got back from being with a dear friend of over 20 years who's husband died last night after being sick for a long, long time. Got the call at 3am, and went right to her. I know that it's blessing that he's out of pain, but still hard to watch a family go through so much, especially when it's people you care so much about.
Momto3, just don't know what to say, but my heart is breaking for you. As usual, the Bear seems to have hit the nail right on the head. My hubby and I were both married once before, and had three boys between us right off the bat, then had one of our own. There were time i wasn't sure we would make it, rough, rough days that's for sure. Blows-up like you mention when I wasn't sure staying together was a good thing for anybody. Don't really know how we made it, but we did, and I admire you so very much for being so strong to put your kids needs first. However, when it comes to boys, I really think Bear is right, right on. It seems like with each one of our boys there always had to come a day, almost a right of passage, where they had to see if they could face down their dad (or step-dad) Reminded me of the nature channels where the young lions challenged the leader of the pack. Like Bear said about two stags and the same patch of forest..Perfect!! It's hard enough to deal with that with your own child, you've grown up with yours, have the whole history since babyhood, etc. But then for a man trying to deal with that from a child he's had for just a few years, gotta be even tougher. Plus, maybe your 15 year old feels a bit protective of you, knowing you've been unhappy.
Certainly not defending what happened, just trying to understand. Again, like Bear said, you got some postive things to work from. Anyway, just know you're in my thoughts!
Yalinda, so very sorry you've hit a rough patch, been wondering if the enbrel was helping or not.  just wish I lived close to all of you so I could send you dinner or something!! That's what I always do when I know someome is hurting, i start cooking.... I'd make a big potluck for everybody if I could...Maybe we could all meet in the middle somewhere.
Boo and Camama, hope you guys are doing better, too....
Thanks so much for the posts, Erin, helps alot!! Saw the doctor yesterday, running more bloodwork, but she seems to think the mtx is helping some already.
Well, my turn to say I'm sorry I've rambled on so long.....here's hoping we all have some brighter days!!
Jody

Post Edited (babyplace) : 6/6/2007 6:34:24 AM (GMT-6)


Ducky
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   Posted 6/6/2007 7:57 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Bear.. don't worry at all about the long post! Great advice! Everyone is open to talk and vent away.. there are times when a long post is needed! No worries! :) :) :)
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   Posted 6/6/2007 8:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Morning everybody...you guys are so awesome.

Bear! I'm sorry you are in pain:( how are you feeling today?? and what do they (the doctors) do for your treatment? I know you mentioned that you have parkinsons? You brought up such valid points about my situation that my son is indeed 15 and its a tough age! You know you have one too! Last night when I arrived home, my son was gone, hubby had came home and picked him up they went for a drive and bought model glue, and had a talk. My husband is very good at talking things out and trying to get to the bottom of the situation. While growing up his own father was verbally to him and his sisters and physically abusive to his mom:( and to this day they are still married. Although, his father no longer hits his mother all that has ended, it makes me terribly sad that he had that kind of childhood, he is amazing grounded for what he grew up around. His moms take on it is, well its all over now so it doesn't matter anymore..And yes he is very mild mannered, who would guess he had a father like he does!!!! He is very loving and gentle... well except if you are 15..he can explain things to the kids over and over very calmly and I am pulling my hair out!!

Babyplace...I will just use you as an inspiration since you have been down this road with a blended family. Its hard!! and we have tried to have a child of our own and so far it hasn't worked out but that was before I developed this whole RA thing:( Now I just don't know what to do about that and hubby and I aren't getting any younger you know? But he has been an awesome step dad for the most part and to be quite honest I don't think I could have done this myself..raising someone else's kiddos, gosh that sounds terrible. We have been married for 4 years and together for 7 so I tried my very best to make sure he would make a good mate/step parent after my first fiasco! I didn't want a repeat performance! I'm sorry to hear about your friends husband passing, that is sad, and there isn't much you can do but just try to be there for her the best you can...I can tell you are a wonderful friend!! I know you aren't defending Bear, and since you have been in this boat its easy to see both sides and now I am thinking a bit more clearly today than I was yesterday...My son can be a bit difficult at times (challenging) he hasn't always been this way but he is now that he is older and its frustrating, and he will argue with you until the cows come home!! even when he knows he is wrong!! So yes, it just got out of hand. I would love to meet somewhere in the middle but I'm not much of a cooker, I could bring a salad though :) You are such a sweetie!!

Oh Imarzz...I'm sorry sweetie that your husband is so dense!!~ sorry!! I really want to slap that man!! It did take mine a bit to figure it out, now he tells me when I'm warm and having a flare. Try taping a huge sign to the frige, he does eat after all!! I think sometimes its hard for some men, they want to solve all of our problems and when they can't they don't know what to do..this is true for mine.

Boo...super hugs for you...I wish there was something to make you feel better, I'm so sorry you are having a rough time!!!!! Please feel better soon.

Camama..I have never heard of skin hurting...but then with RA anything is possible!

Erin, I hope you are doing well!

babyplace
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   Posted 6/6/2007 9:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Momto3,
Will write again later, but just wanted to correct something real quick....if I made it sound like I was dissagreeing with Bear, absolutely not!  I think he is right on about his take on the situation....I think his posts are always amazing. If there was any misunderstanding there I sincerely apologize...
 Personally, I think we should get Bear his own shingle to hang out and post his office hours!
 

Post Edited (babyplace) : 6/6/2007 10:25:43 AM (GMT-6)


CaMama
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Date Joined Mar 2005
Total Posts : 1884
   Posted 6/6/2007 9:50 AM (GMT -7)   
I think the 'skin hurting' is my psorisis trying to break free....I hope it fails. For some reason, it is really irritating / painful when it affects my hands. My arms are very itchy too....usually I they don't bother me unless the psorisis has gotten so bad the skin is cracked and irritated.
 
Though I'm not glad to hear about everyone's marital problems, they do bring me some comfort that I'm not alone. IMarz, i can totally relate to your story. I've had almost the exact scenario happen. Mom, I can tell you I have a 7 year old who can be more than difficult, and sometimes blowing up happens. I wasn't there....but I can only imagine a 15 year old boy would be much more difficult. Bear is right, if he is normallly a mild-mannered man, then don't freak out. You two need to talk and figure out a game plan that will work with your son. Kids are always testing us, and if I remember 15.....well, there is a lot going on when you are that age...
 
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