Bear, was SO glad to see you post. Have missed your posts and poetry...I am going to appoint myself the official thread worrier. Was ready to shoot you an e-mail to check on you and make sure you were ok. How have you been feeling? How's the hip? So sorry about the mess with your sister-in-law. Thought that stuff was exclusive to us selfish Americans, and I dont mean that sarcastically. Really had the opinion that the European cultures didn't have those issues about caring for family. It makes me so sad, that kids can be that way to parents who cared for them all their lives. My dad had to be in a re-hab after a stroke, and it always broke my heart how many people there never had a single visitor..they practically ran us down in the hallways for a smile or a tender touch. Got an idea....give the SIL a bill for her share of MIL's care, ask her how she plans to pay? You're a good man to take such good care of your family.
Yally.....so now you're a Smurf? Should we change your name lol? Glad you made it back safe and sound..how's the girl? Have to tape House tonight...meeting right after work..continuing education on how to change a diaper..so looking forward to this.
Ducky..now I'm getting worried about you, been way too quiet..is everything ok?
CaMama, haven't seen the news past few nights, how are things your way? Are you and the kids having an easier time breathing? Can't believe they made you go into work!!! Hope your health is holding up ok. When my son lived out there, he went to Mt Carmel High, really loved it.
Erin, How are you dear? Don't really want to know how you're keeping busy lol, whatever keeps you happy, girl! Just so glad to see you posting, hoping you're feeling better every day.
Hey Mom, How's the pumpkins turn out? Just realized that we didn't do any this year...don't know how it got by me, usually do them with the daycare kids at least. have to come up with something fun for them tomorrow.
Post Edited (babyplace) : 10/30/2007 2:54:03 PM (GMT-6)
Oh Bear, I'm feeling for you. I have the same frustrations here with MIL. One daughter is killing herself to help her mother. Another is 2+ hours away and just lost her husband. The "baby" is too tired after work (I think with the help of few glasses of wine). The other two boys call to see if we're "taking good care of mother" and tell us to do this and that. I don't think I have to tell you what my response is to them. Believe me, they will be standing in line when she passes to see what they will receive in the way of inheritance. Imagine their surprise when they are presented with the bills I have paid for pharmacy, hair salon, and nursing home. I keep very good records. In the end, Bear, we will be the ones who can hold our heads up high and know we have done the right thing. Our pillow we sleep on every night is our conscience and some folks wake up looking (and feeling) like crap.
Long day again. We couldn't even take a break to eat which means I didn't take my meds until I got home tonight. Feeling pretty bad. Doc gave me a scolding just yesterday about taking care of myself. Hubby is wearing himself down too.
Just looked at some old photos....before hubby, kids, Bell's Palsy and arthritis. What the H*** happened? I was HOT! Going to bed now. Getting between the sheets and zoning out is just the ticket. Boo
I like "becky 2X4" as well. I know you were angry, but I enjoyed that post.
Bear - glad you are able to make the move back to your own bed...very nice. Sorry to hear about rotten in-laws. Same goes to you Boo. amazing what you are doing for the family - and being treated so thanklessly. For shame.
Yes, the air quality was much better today! Daughter said they even let them out on the playground today for recess and the house doesn't seem to smell as bad. Electric bill is probably going to be sky high for this past month. We've had the "auto fan" on non-stop since last week on top of the a/c when it kicks on to help filter out the house.
Tired...so tired...good night.
Happy Halloween all,
Just got a minute, but couldn't resist a quick post. Boo, about that horse..after all, it is "Hump Day" heehee!! Sorry, I know that was really bad..but couldn't help myself.
So glad to see the poetry back Bear, thanks! Missed it alot
Thank you also for the kind words Yally, actually it was my brother, no grandkids for me yet, darn it..but all well wishes for him are much appreciated..
Hi ducky I had a lousy day too..........my gastroenterologist is not that supportive of my IBS with constipation. I intend to keep of poo-poo diary. He is very into exact dates.
Thanks so much everybody for welcoming me back. Yalinda...didn't you have a flood a while back. I was blacked out on my ibs post and was VERY MIFFED and stopped posting here but you guys are fun. Also the shingles this summer was NO FUN and caused me to GIVE UP on a lot of stuff.
Bear, I am also with RSVP which is translated here as Retired Seniors Volunteer Program and work at the Shaker Heritage Society. Ann Lee was originally from England and added wonderful things to our culture.
Oh Gosh you guys!!
How many hugs can I send around?? Erin, so wish there was something we could do to help you!! Can't the lawyer who was helping with your finances help you with this hearing? My blood pressure is about to go through the roof at the thought of them cutting off your medical..one just has to look at the people who are getting all kinds of aid and then hear of something like this to see the injustice of our "system".AAAGGHHHHH (trying to quote Bear, sorry) Please, let us know if there is anything we can do, anything at all.
Ducky sending special hugs your way...would do anything at all for you, too, hope you know that. Man, I so wish we were all closer so we could "circle the wagons" and help each other.
Mom, sounds like things are in a better way at your house, so glad to hear that, you've been on my heart as well. Thanks for the thoughts about my brother, yes, undoubtly he and his kids will all need some counseling to get through all this, it's been very hard, and we all know that these kinds of hurts leave scars that can affect the rest of your life.
Bear...my gosh, how did you keep from hurting your SIL????Just don't know what to say, it stuns me that someone can be such an arse..to their own mother???? My heart just breaks for your MIL, she must be devasted to see what her daughter has become, and even more to realize how little love her daughter must have for her. . No parent wants to believe their child capable of such behavior. It is such a good thing that she has you and your wife to protect her. Perhaps a British 2x4 is in order here?
Hey Joan...sounds like you need a weekend of rest..take care of yourself..
Yally, dear Yally...what fun do you have planned for the weekend? Finally got to watch House last night...yeah..it was a good one!
Hey CaMama..how are things with you?? I know you've been through an awful lot..but you were having bad stomach problems before, weren't you? Is that any better? How's the job and family?
Boo, hope things are ok with you, too..but you're probably working way too hard and doing way too much...please take it easy..big hugs to you as well.
Well, so ends the novel that is my post...we are finally getting some cooler weather here...have the windows open and it feel wonderful...it's officially Friday night and not a diaper in sight...for the moment..life is good.
Have a good night all,
I'm very PO'd about Bear's SIL and Erin's plight with the system. Ok, Cool down, Boo. Very touchy situation, Bear, and I know it's hard to keep quiet (something I can no longer master). Your wife must be an emotional wreck about all this. Not fair to have bullies running around this planet. You could send me her address....... just kidding.
Erin, have you bugged the crap out of your Congress people? I love doing that. Gotten real good at writing letters. They get tired of hearing from ya and sometimes do something they were elected to do. Too bad you're not old enough for AARP yet. They don't look too kindly on this kind of disregard for sick people.
I, myself, got an out of the side of the mouth, below the belt comment about people who are on medicare and shouldn't be, at the office yesterday. And yes, it was the employee of the month. I promptly asked her how she'd like to go home and collect her unemployment, to keep her stupid, uninformed comments to herself because, as impaired as I am, I can still show her how concrete tastes. One more strike and You're Out, and (I minced no words here) this place has been in business for over 60 years and it will go on with or without you and most probably better without you. Whew! I was exhausted and she went home crying.
Wouldn't want her to know this but maybe she keeps me going by making me so mad I could chew nails. And all the stuff going on with SIL and MIL just keeps me walking (like a question mark) and going and doing what has to be done. That's life. Never mind that I go to bed before the sun goes down and the birds are still singing outside. Someday I'll have my little cabin at the lake and no employees, IRS, deadlines, etc. Man, I've taken too much space. Sorry. Boo
Post Edited (Joan M) : 11/3/2007 7:43:29 AM (GMT-6)
Hi there - I had to scan the posts, so forgive if I ask about somethign that's been asnwered.
Joan, I had a pipe leak earlier in the year - is that what you are remembering? I called it 'the flood' as it flooded a small portion of our house.
Erin what happened to the pro-bono lawyer you had? How come they are just giving you notice of your date now? That is ridiculous! Was it Jayz you lost or soeone else? I hop eyou find a doc soon.
Ducky hang in there! You are going through so much, I can understand why you feel not 'right' - lots of prayers and hugs your way!
I"m really liking my job even though I miss being with the kids! I think I partially like it so much becuse it gets meout of the house from the stresses here and the people there being so nice helps. Having some money coming in helps the stress at home as well. But, I'm WIPED out. Hubby has not been doing his kid duties completely which stresses me out - I come home and have to keep them up late to do their homework. I don't feel great and I so don't want to get sick !!!! Joints have been bothersome big time. I have a funky cough and bad congestion. I thought it was a result of the smoke (which it still smells like an ashtray around here.) But, now I'm not so sure. Sorry to pop in after a week just to moan.....I am thinking of all of you and miss you greatly as well! Take care
Fall forward, Hump backward. No, that was Wednesday. What the heck do I do with my clocks?
So glad your job, at least, is going well, CaMama. It also addresses some self-esteem issues when you are bringing in $$$$$, doesn't it? I used to come home to a mess when the kids were home and I was working two jobs. If I made a fuss hubby would yell at the kids. Then I figured out that he didn't even know how to load the dishwasher or any household chores. He does peoples' clothes for a living but never figured out how to turn the washing machine on at home. He still wouldn't do it today if his life depended on it. So, every now and then, (surely this is by accident) I somehow get a red t-shirt in when washing his underwear. Ever seen a cowboy with pink undies?
Made a trip to brother's house yesterday. Hadn't met the new addition from China yet. Sooooo cute. The newest one is 18 months and the other is 3. The 3 year old met me at the door saying, "Come see my baby". It was precious.
So now, change the clocks and batteries in the smoke alarms. Have a great Sunday, Boo