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Hope4Soph
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   Posted 1/17/2008 10:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Everyone,I have just joined HealingWell.com and looking forward to sharing with others.I have been diagnosed with bi-polar 7 months ago,so I am new to this disease and all the places it takes me.I am looking forward to connecting with others that understand......Sophie

Post Edited (Hope4Soph) : 1/17/2008 10:09:27 AM (GMT-7)


sukay
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   Posted 1/17/2008 12:33 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Sophie, :-)

Welcome to healingwell. I am glad that you found us.  I think you have come to a good place to find some support and knowledge about your dealing and learning about bipolar.

Take your time and look through the posts. There is a lot of information that you will find that I am sure might help you.

Please feel free to post anything that is on your mind. We will all try to help you.

 


~sukay~
Diagnosed Bipolar - August 2004
     Crohns disease - 1995 
Arthritis & Fibromyalgia 


serafena
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   Posted 1/17/2008 2:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sophie,

Allow me to welcome you to our board as well. I hope we can offer you some support and a sense of community -- so rare with bipolar!

You said you were relatively newly diagnosed. How's everything going?

serafena
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It is a melancholy of mine own, compounded of many simples, extracted from many objects, and indeed the sundry contemplation of my travels, in which my often rumination wraps me in a most humorous sadness. -- William Shakespeare


Hope4Soph
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   Posted 1/17/2008 4:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you sukay & serafena,such a nice welcome so soon.To answer your question serafena"How is everything going?",well to be quite honest it's been a struggle..I am craving just one more high..I'm at a calm level right now & it almost feels like I am in a twilight zone..does this make any sense at all? I haven't had a high in so long,so in my mind there's no fun left.
When my day comes to an end...I get up the next morning and start the routine all over again...*Smile*..Sophie

serafena
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   Posted 1/17/2008 7:07 PM (GMT -7)   
I understand. I'm bpII -- I don't get your highs, but I have heard tell. :-) I can appreciate how they might have a charm all their own. My highs are no fun, so I don't crave them at all. A good balance sounds pretty good about now.

I was a little confused from the title of you post -- are you a Mom or a Teen (or both?)
Serafena
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Bipolar II
It is a melancholy of mine own, compounded of many simples, extracted from many objects, and indeed the sundry contemplation of my travels, in which my often rumination wraps me in a most humorous sadness. -- William Shakespeare


Hope4Soph
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   Posted 1/19/2008 5:30 AM (GMT -7)   
I am a Mother of a 13 year old teen age daughter,we have a very close relationship.Last summer I went on this destructive(out of character)adventure.Although I didn't know at the time that I had BP..I thought maybe I was experiencing early stage of menopause?
 
I was diagnosed in June/2007 with BP..It threw me for a loop,shortly after I had crashed into the darkest place I had ever been.My beautifull daughter had watched her Mom change before her very eyes.I have always had a problem with depression but this was terrifying to her.
 
Now my mood swings are all over the place,like I had mentioned in my other post(no more highs)alot of lows and it breaks my heart..it has affected my daughter! I tell her when I am not feeling the greatest(it's nothing personal)..I'm not sure if that's the right thing to do?
 
I am confused here...when I get in a low...everyone is affected..."Sophie" sad

serafena
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   Posted 1/19/2008 7:25 PM (GMT -7)   
I see. I imagine that must be really hard on everyone. I believe telling her is the right thing to do. Keeping the facts from her would be even scarier and letting her think it somehow was her fault or she was somehow responsible would be even worse. I have a small daughter, and I worry about how to deal with this in the future myself, but I've asked for advice and people have been really great about it.
Serafena
Co-Moderator, Bipolar Forum

Bipolar II
It is a melancholy of mine own, compounded of many simples, extracted from many objects, and indeed the sundry contemplation of my travels, in which my often rumination wraps me in a most humorous sadness. -- William Shakespeare


loving frustrated wife
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   Posted 1/19/2008 10:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Hope4Soph, I am a mom of 3. I am not BP myself, but both my H & my 14yr. old S are. For what it is worth, I say tell your daughter the FULL truth about the BP, site examples of what she has seen and lived with, and how they are classic BP symptoms. Share with her everything you are doing to make yourself well for yourself and her. Perhaps take your daughter to the pdoc with you once and let her tell him/her what SHE sees. It will do several things: validate this is real for her, show her that her input is important because what she has witnessed is valuable to your wellness (and your wellness is ALL she wants for her mom), and it will give her an opportunity to ask questions, and allow her a voice. You can also ask the pdoc what he/she thinks is best to do for her to support the fact that she is having to watch this, and deal with it too; should she join a support group with other teens so she doesn't feel alone, see a child therapist to help her cope with this all...etc. It will show her you care and are concerned for her wellbeing in spite of what you are going through, that you are trying to create safety for her, as you have always done as her mom. That she can always count on you for that in spite of what you are going through. Find out some books that perhaps would be good for a teenager to read to learn about it. Because as we all know, knowledge is power when it comes to all this. You also need to let her see all the things you are doing to be well. It is okay that she sees that this is hard, the efforts she sees you making will make all the difference to her, and will also help her to see that while you want and need her support, SHE is not responsible to take care of you. It is STILL your job to take care of HER. She is the child, and you are the parent who loves her so much and will continue to take care of her. And perhaps even better now as you continue to achieve balance and wellness. The other key is YOUR level of responsibility about your OWN condition. Make sure you stay (as best you can) responsible for apologizing, owning when you emotionally go to far, for when mommy is blue and it is NOT anything she did....etc.

At 13, your daughter is old enough to understand and process all that information. Just be honest and don't push her away. Let her ask all the questions she needs. She is not your partner in this, but her input is important too. And there is no shame in her needing help understanding this.

I hope hearing from a mom with kids participates in helping your process. I know this is only my opinion, but maybe it will add additional perspective. All the best....LFW

Post Edited (loving frustrated wife) : 1/19/2008 10:18:41 PM (GMT-7)


Hope4Soph
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   Posted 1/20/2008 7:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you LFW & Serafena for sharing;I have been honest with my girl and we have done alot of searching on line for info on BP..When I hit a low..is when I am so scared,I tell her that I am in a low and nothing else is wrong.She is so strong and sits by me and gets lots of hugs....It's all in my mind that I ache and feel so guilty..Today I am good,thankfull to be here..so far this morning I have sketched with my daughter with a few laughs.I thank you for your words(I will take them with me today).
Sophie

Hope4Soph
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   Posted 1/21/2008 3:50 AM (GMT -7)   
I have read that Celexa ( Citaloprahm) has to be used with caution when used with someone with BP.My Doc has me on a high dose (60mg)/day.I know I shouldn't play with my own meds but...I decreased my dose by 10 mg,this is day #3 for me..I felt more alert and with the program(if you will)a calm mild mood and intune with my surroundings.This morning I feel great,no drowsiness,no ill feeling...Has any one else ever felt that they were being overloaded with meds?
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