IS MY HUSBAND BI-POLAR?PLEASE HELP!!

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Panike
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   Posted 1/28/2008 6:03 PM (GMT -7)   
eyes Hello all! I am visiting from the panic/anxiety forum.I have a question i know very little about being bp,but judging from some things i have heard through the years ive always suspected my husband was bp.I would like to share some of the symtoms he has that concern me.For the past couple years he doesnt act like he enjoys doing things he used to physical activities etc.He sometimes go days and days without speaking unless spoking to.He often stay away from family activities.He doesnt like going out much anymore unless he is going out of town or something.He sleeps all the time.He always think people are talking about him or judging him.People at work etc.He shows very little emotion or sympathy toward me or others.He is rarely in a loving mood or even smiles.Basically all he does is play video games work eat and sleep. Can someone please help me out!!!! OH,AND HE ALSO SEEMS ANGRY ALLTHE TIME!!!!!

loving frustrated wife
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   Posted 1/28/2008 6:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Are you sure he isn't more depressed? With BP, you would see the swinging back and forth of emotion. Fine one minute, not the next. It seems to jump from one emotion to another. However, there are forms where the person is in one dominant emotion for elongated periods to. But from what you are describing, it sure sounds more like depression to me. My husband is BP. Either way, perhaps the place to start is for him to see a therapist for a bit and let them see what they think? Is your husband open to that? LFW

Panike
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   Posted 1/28/2008 6:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you lfw maybe it is depression. But he is currently on meds for depression he takes them every day. All i know is im getting fustrated with it being that im dealing with my own anxiety and panic attacks.Do you think all these years of seeing me suffer from this has rubbed off on him.Sometimes i feel like its my fault.Sometimes I feel like i put a damper on his moods.What do you think?

serafena
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   Posted 1/28/2008 7:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Panike,

I was going to respond just as LFW did -- your husband's symptoms sound more like depression to me than bipolar. He doesn't sound like he's having any mania-like-symptoms. But the truth is that only a doc can say for sure, so get him to ask a doc.

As to whether you've rubbed off on him, that's very hard to say. I'm certain your condition has had an effect on him, but to say it's caused him to be depressed on it's own is a big leap to make. The most direct route is to ask him. Is he open to discusionn abojt it?

serafena
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Bipolar II
It is a melancholy of mine own, compounded of many simples, extracted from many objects, and indeed the sundry contemplation of my travels, in which my often rumination wraps me in a most humorous sadness. -- William Shakespeare


Panike
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   Posted 1/28/2008 8:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi serefena usually when i ask him is something wrong he insist that he is fine or just tired. I did ask him once does my anxeity and panic attacks symtoms take a toll on him.He siad no.But he has been known to lie to make me feel better.But he has never been a real big talker but he wasnt this bad!!! He has a habit of avoiding conflict or anything he thinks could lead to conflict. So usually he wont discuss anything with me.What do you mean by mania-like symtoms??? ive heard of that but could you please explain to me what takes place in these mania-like episodes??

serafena
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   Posted 1/29/2008 1:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Well bipolar means you have two mood states that you swing back and forth between: depression and mania. You're describing something which sounds very much like depression. If he were bipolar, he would swing between that and mania. Sometimes people swing quickly (a few days,) mostly it takes longer (a few weeks to a couple months). According to the Mayo Clinic's website, mania is characterized by
* Euphoria
* Extreme optimism
* Inflated self-esteem
* Poor judgment
* Rapid speech
* Racing thoughts
* Aggressive behavior
* Agitation
* Increased physical activity
* Risky behavior
* Spending sprees
* Increased drive to perform or achieve goals
* Increased sexual drive
* Decreased need for sleep
* Tendency to be easily distracted
* Inability to concentrate
* Drug abuse

If that doesn't sound like your husband, he's probably not bipolar. Or, if he has a couple of those symptoms in a very mild way, he may be hypomanic -- which is a version of mania, and you would need to take him to a doctor to have him checked out for bipolar II, which is a less extreme form of bipolar.

Here's a link to the website, check it out for yourself:
www.mayoclinic.com/health/bipolar-disorder/DS00356/DSECTION=2

His tendency to avoid conflict isn't necessarily a bipolar trait, it's more just a way of interpersonal communication. I'm not saying it's healthy -- it sounds a little codependent -- but what he needs for that is therapy. If his medication isn't working to lift his depression, then he needs to see a psychiatrist (not a family doctor) and get a new prescription. Psychiatrists just know so much more about the drugs and how they work.

serafena
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Bipolar II
It is a melancholy of mine own, compounded of many simples, extracted from many objects, and indeed the sundry contemplation of my travels, in which my often rumination wraps me in a most humorous sadness. -- William Shakespeare

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