B/P fiance i'm fustrated

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JOVIGIRL71
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   Posted 2/7/2008 7:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Everyone,
Right now I live alone, however my fiance wanted to buy a house soon and I am hesitant. I am scared because I can only take so much of the mood swings and all. I am afraid if we live together things are gonna change for the worse. she has a 14 yr old who she doesn't really want to take responsability of. i do it all on wkends. it makes me sad not angry.
These are the simptoms she has...
 
sleeps constantly when not working
lazy- no motorvation
deep depression
snaps at me
expects me to do everything. never offers to help
keeps going through med changes. has been on everything under the sun. now her doctor is taking her off lithium and trying her on a new med. i have a hard time dealing with so many med changes because she also is negative doesn't look at the positive.
 
i mean is this part of b/p or is just an excuse not to do anything to better herself.
 
please help me i'm at my witts end after 4 yrs of this. i love her but i dont know how much longer i can take it.
 
 
~~ Donna ~~
 
Diagnosed with UC in 1987 at age 16
Imuran ~ 2 1/2 pills a day,Colazal  3~3x a day
Lexapro ~ 20 mgs daily for sanity  :-)
 


katy_33
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Date Joined Jan 2008
Total Posts : 147
   Posted 2/7/2008 9:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sunshine,
I am on same page as you with my spouse ,explain in mild way how you expect lil help around,offer motivation and see if it works.Just hang in there ,4 years is pretty long time and staying together would give you picture if you wanna spend rest of life like this ,but i am sure if you could deal with weekends only with her you would sustain brunt here too.Just keep track of meds with her.Hope this helps.
God bless and take care,
Katy
Happiness is not the absence of problems; but the ability to deal with them." Jack Brown


serafena
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   Posted 2/7/2008 12:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sunshine,

I would say that it sounds like her depression (her bp) is primarily the cause of these behaviors. That isn't to say that she can't change or that you can't talk to her and ask for some more help on her part. It's just that she may not have the resources to be able to give it. You're absolutely right that you need to be brutally honest with yourself about how much you can put up with. It's probably good to have qualms about getting a house with a woman who has trouble facing responsibilities. On the other hand, if she's pretty high functioning, can hold down a job and pay her bills, it might be just fine.

serafena
Serafena
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Bipolar II
It is a melancholy of mine own, compounded of many simples, extracted from many objects, and indeed the sundry contemplation of my travels, in which my often rumination wraps me in a most humorous sadness. -- William Shakespeare


JOVIGIRL71
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Date Joined Sep 2003
Total Posts : 638
   Posted 2/7/2008 8:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks so much for your responses :-)
I keep my chin up and hopefully things will be ok.
I hard to see someone you love go threw such a horrible desease
~~ Donna ~~
 
Diagnosed with UC in 1987 at age 16
Imuran ~ 2 1/2 pills a day,Colazal  3~3x a day
Lexapro ~ 20 mgs daily for sanity  :-)
 

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