Well, I haven't posted in awhile. I do come in and read sometimes just trying to understand this disorder. My husband must be bipolar or maybe bpd and definitely has ADD. I have read extensively about all of these disorders and others but someone here said one day, it doesn't really matter which it is, the symptoms are similiar and the behaviors are difficult either way.
I could handle so many of dh's behaviors but I am at my wit's end now. He has decided that he won't work for someone else. He has tried over and over different businesses "unsuccessfully" and has about 10 ideas or more for new businesses now. He doesn't have money for a start up. 6 months ago he did but wouldn't put any effort toward anything. He waits until we are down to our last $200 to get motivated enough to sell something or borrow money. I use to work and in hindsight realized when I did, he would pretend to be working only he would rack up debt rather than actually make a profit at the businesses that he had. He worked 20 years ago at a plant for years. But he doesn't want to do that again because he doesn't want anyone "telling him what to do or to get back to work" etc.
I love him and we have been married over 20 years. He has a pyschiatrist and takes medication for anxiety and depression. He has manic episodes too and goes on spending sprees. Not huge ones like wiping out the bank but enough to cause alot of problems in our marriage. I am just fed up and I'm really considering ending the marriage soon and maybe we can just continue as friends and enjoy each other's company from time to time. I just don't want to live week to week pinching pennies and owing money to others like he sets us up for.
Thanks for listening to me. I know that you folks here are very kind people and have helped each other and others who come in needing advice. If any of you have any suggestions by all means please give them to me. I just don't think I can take this anymore. But it's sad. I hate to give up our love for each other. But sometimes love just isn't enough when I am constantly upset and resentful for all of the pain he puts me through. At least if I am in control of my own life after I leave maybe we can still love each other from across town.......??