I've never done anything like this before, so forgive me if I'm not following protocol correctly...
I have been dating a man off and on for a year now. We broke up five months ago because he refused to go into counseling for his jealousy/insecurity issues. We just reunited a couple weeks ago (since broke up again), whereupon he told me he had started getting medication and counseling on his own. This made me extremely happy to say the least, as I really am in love with this person. However, the behavior is still happening and I just don't think I can take it anymore. He said the Dr. said it might be BP disorder. After reading some of the posts, I am seeing a lot of similarities. I thought I was going crazy (he has an ability to make me think it's really my fault). I just wanted some feedback on whether or not the following behaviors were typical of someone with BP disorder?
perceived or imagined flirtation by people such as waiters, friends' spouses, strangers on the street
disinterest in meeting my friends
extremely romantic, deep
mood switches on a dime (trigger usually other men)
instantly withdraws from me, don't hear from him for weeks and when I do he is hateful, emotionally abusive
comes back apologetic, swears it won't happen again, but it does (I count 15 times now)
appears to have a total personality switch and I never know when it's going to happen, what will trigger it, or how long he will be in this alternate personality which is very distant, cold, mean, and indifferent
when we are up, we are very up and very much in love
when we are down, it's like pure hell
happy times only seem to last a few days
I appreciate any input anyone might have. Frankly, I don't think I can carry on this relationship any longer. It has taken a serious toll on my health and well-being. I don't think he is as committed to therapy as he should be and that is what it would take for this to work. I'm only hoping that some information might help me to understand "what happened" with us.