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Carenpolar
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   Posted 4/6/2008 8:15 AM (GMT -7)   
 HI everyone... I am in a depression the downside of Bipolar 1...... I think living alone brought it on as I am a widow of 6 years.... I do have a wonderful loving cat who loves me.......
 
  Yesturday, My oldest daughter came by to  see me and told me she is moving to Las Vegas. She says she needs s change . We are very close.. we go to movies and out to lunch and shopping........So I will miss our times together.... I live in Az so it isnt far to go visit her. sometimes....
 
  I was really down last night knowing she is moving on monday.........
 
 
  She brought me a little surprise,  a Red hat pin.. I belong to the Red hat society and and our group of 12.. go on outings  which are fun.... I have that to look forward to...
 
 
   Thanks for listening. ps. I take Zyprexa for my Bipolar 1 
 
  Caren
 

yana
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   Posted 4/6/2008 8:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Caren,
Staying close to daughter was fun but she moving ,i know its sad.But nice to know about your red hat society ,you feel a sense of belonging and its very supportive.

Good luck!!
yana
Never work just for money or for power. They won't save your soul or help you sleep at night.
~Marian Wright Edelman~


I have discovered that all human evil comes from this, man's being unable to sit still in a room.
~Blaise Pascal~


sukay
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   Posted 4/6/2008 9:32 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Caren,

I can understand your depression. You love your daughter, she's also been a great friend to you, but she too needs to move on with her life. She said she is looking for change.

Surely, you're going to have to have some grieving time, but that is typical for any mother to see their child moving so far away from them. But this is something that she is excited about and is looking forward to the change.

Try to be encouraging for her. She needs your support as well. I think by her givning you the red pin, it was her way of saying to you that she wants good things to go on for you too! She is letting you know that she thinks this group is wonderful for you and she would like for you to continue to be part of it. Maybe that's her way of making sure, you'll be finding new changes in your life as well.

And remember, there are also phone calls that can be made, "just thinking about you cards" with little notes inside to send in the mail. And you said it isn't that far, so maybe you two could make time for a visit here and there and spend some quality time together.

So for me, grieving this transition is normal.  Be strong, encourage her, and let her know she will be missed but you look forward to some of the suggestions given above if they fit you.

When my daughter moved out, she said it made her so happy to hear that I was out and about doing things. She said she was glad to hear that I wasn't just sitting at home moping around. It relieve her and allowed her to be truly happy. I grieved, but I'm better with it because I know she is truly happy, moving on with her life.

Give it time, I hope it gets better for you.

Sincerely, Sukay

 


serafena
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   Posted 4/7/2008 9:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Caren,

I am very sorry to hear about your depression. Your daughter moving must feel very sad, but she's probably quite excited. With depression, it's important not to not rely solely on medications and to get out and do something. Try and think of things, like the Red Hat Society, which make you feel good -- your interests -- and engage in them again, even if it feels impossible.

Keep posting and let us know how you're feeling. Let us support you.

serafena
Serafena
Co-Moderator, Bipolar Forum
Bipolar II


Carenpolar
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   Posted 4/7/2008 1:31 PM (GMT -7)   
 Thank you for your responses,,,,,,,,, I am going to a REd hat function on thrusday....Marocpa  fair is on.. that should be fun...
 
 
   caren

sukay
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   Posted 4/8/2008 8:14 AM (GMT -7)   

Caren,

Sounds interesting! :-)

Update us after your social. I'm curious what goes on there.

Have fun!!!!! tongue


~sukay~
Diagnosed Bipolar - August 2004
     Crohns disease - 1995 
Arthritis & Fibromyalgia 
 
Leo Buscaglia

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