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sophieWVU
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   Posted 4/13/2008 7:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi all,
 
I was wondering if any of you get fixated on certain things or events out of nowhere or by triggers and can't get past it.  I do this often and don't know how to stop it.  I can't get over certain things and it drives me crazy and causes problems in my relationship.

serafena
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   Posted 4/14/2008 8:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sophie,

That's interesting. Like what? Are you talking other people? That would cause problems in my relationship too. Or something else, like a tv show or a color or chocolate cake or a car crash?
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sophieWVU
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   Posted 4/14/2008 1:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Right now I'm obsessing over the fact that my boyfriend was with other girls when we were broken up (I was with someone else as well).  We love each other so much and he's so supportive, and logically none of that matters.  Usually I'm like meh whatever, then i get like this, then back to not caring.  When I'm like this I think I can't be with him, it's to hard to have to think about.  It's very weird.  I ruined a relationship where I found out my bf hid porn from me.  I obsessed over it for months, as if he cheated on me multiple times or something.  Sometimes I obsess over something I did wrong, like when I yelled at my nephew one time when I shouldn't have when I was raging.  Literally to the point where I can't think in class, I start burning up, start panicking, and decide I can never be a mother.  I don't want to ruin the good things in my life.

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   Posted 4/14/2008 2:57 PM (GMT -7)   
sophie,

i think you are being too hard on yourself. positive things DO happen, only to be splattered by negative things. think of it this way. you are at a formal dance (with yourb/f) and you have had the greatest experience in your life. you are happy and smiling and holding onto your b/f's arm. then somebody is a little tipsy, bumps into you, and spills wine all over your beautiful dress. you can say, "you idiot!! you ruined th entire party for me!!." letting one insignificant incident outweigh four hours of delirium. or you could say, "she's drunk!. That used to be funny or amusing or something. Honey, maybe that's our cue to go home."

you are in control of your thoughts and how you feel about them. make them happy ones.

warren
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LoStAnDfOuNd
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   Posted 4/14/2008 9:36 PM (GMT -7)   
I get like that sometimes too. I feel like I'm caught in a loop.

wmnak
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   Posted 4/16/2008 8:29 PM (GMT -7)   

three stooges.  Larry says "it's a vicioius cycle."  Moe replies. "that's right!  remind me to kill-o-cycle!" smurf

for those of you old enough to remember the stooges.

warren


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serafena
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   Posted 4/18/2008 10:49 AM (GMT -7)   
Sophie,

I'm sorry, that does sound really awful. My guess is that some of the obsessional behavior is part of the mood disorder, and you should talk to your doc about it. Is your depression otherwise getting a little worse too? Might be time to get the meds adjusted.

serafena
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yana
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   Posted 4/18/2008 12:48 PM (GMT -7)   
sophieWVU said...
Right now I'm obsessing over the fact that my boyfriend was with other girls when we were broken up (I was with someone else as well). We love each other so much and he's so supportive, and logically none of that matters. Usually I'm like meh whatever, then i get like this, then back to not caring. When I'm like this I think I can't be with him, it's to hard to have to think about. It's very weird. I ruined a relationship where I found out my bf hid porn from me. I obsessed over it for months, as if he cheated on me multiple times or something. Sometimes I obsess over something I did wrong, like when I yelled at my nephew one time when I shouldn't have when I was raging. Literally to the point where I can't think in class, I start burning up, start panicking, and decide I can never be a mother. I don't want to ruin the good things in my life.


Sounds weird sophie,imagining means you fancy that thought and it might come true which has already so .I feel sorry for you!!!! sad
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serafena
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   Posted 4/19/2008 12:02 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm not sure what you mean by that Yana,

I'm certain Sophie doesn't "fancy" having her boyfriend with other girls. Let's keep our comments supportive and kind.

serafena
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sophieWVU
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   Posted 4/19/2008 1:06 PM (GMT -7)   

Yeah Yana I don't know what the heck was meant by that

Anyway, yes things are horrible now and I'm getting more depressed.  The meds need adjusting as I've been working on forever, never quite had a good combo.  I have been over the acceptable level of depakote for about 3 months now and my doc doesn't seem to care (124 when it should be 50-100 as she says).  I'm working on that part.  On top of that I have not had individual therapy since being out of the hospital (group for a while, then went to a therapist that cancelled 4/7 appts- fired her).

 

I hate this...I just want there to be an end to it


marthamae
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   Posted 4/19/2008 3:57 PM (GMT -7)   
I definitely have obsessive thoughts and get caught in a loop with them. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has helped me somewhat with this. My psychologist got me started on this. It's just a method of re-focusing your thoughts when they start to happen.

serafena
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   Posted 4/20/2008 8:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Sophie -- Therapy sounds like a good way to go. Any way to line up a new therapist?
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