Co-Moderator Anxiety/Panic Disorders
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Dx: Agoraphobia, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Barrett's Esophagus, Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Essential Tremors, Fibromyalgia, I.B.S., Mitral Valve Prolapse, Narcolepsy, PTSD, Restless Leg Syndrome, Acid Reflux, Sleep Apnea
Rx: Abilify, Flexeril, Lamictal, Neurontin, Nexium, Requip, Ritalin LA, Rozerem, Valium
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LFW, thank you very much for the great advice. I will definitely try to be more conscious of my mood swings (they seem to change often throughout the day for no apparent reason) so that I can warn the family, especially the kids. My kids are also very challenging, especially one of my boys. I need to find a way to get the anger under control and I will often go to another room or ask my kids to go do something while I calm down. That way they don't get the brunt of it, which I don't want because it isn't fair to them.
Thanks again for the advice and for responding. Thank you all for your help. I'll be posting here more often.
It's been awhile. I am sorry to hear that you are cycling so much throughout the day. Is it always with anger or sometimes you just want to be left alone. I think most get angry, but I just want everyone to stay away. Anyway, I sure hope that your doctor will be able to help you and get you back on the right track. All the best and take care of yourself you have alot of people here who care for you.
i can empathise with you. anger - or, more accurately, rage - been my constant companion since i was found under a rock as a small gargoyle 62 yrs ago. i can only tell you what usually works for me.
one of the best psychologists that i ever had suggested that i draw pictures of erupting volcanoes. one particularly bad week-end, i drew over 50 erupting volcanoes. the entire East Coast, where i was living at the time, was engulfed in hot molten lava. for me at that time, it felt particularly good.
another thing i do is hit things. from my own experience i suggest inanimate objects that are relatively soft. people can get hurt if you hit on them and then there is always the problem of going to jail. hitting people also makes relationships dicey. many yrs ago i got so enraged at my ex-wife that i put my fist through a plasterboard wall. i went right through the 2x4 stud. i never thought my fist would heal after that one.
punching bags are also useful for hitting. they don't usually hit back. although once i got distracted and the bag clipped the back of my head. geeee that hurt!
Okay...I experience a lot of what you go through. Irritability is really hard to manage, b/c I feel so angry, and it does seem to come out of nowhere and it's extremely hard to control--it actually feels impossible to control.
I think though you've got the right ideas. Leave the room; calming activities, like colouring is perfect!
Cycling is the pitts--that is what I deal with. I'm on Lamictal too, and my pdoc is watching me b/c apparently Lamictal could increase cycling too, so that might be something you could ask your pdoc about? Do you keep a mood chart? You can get some off the internet--but they are really helpful to see how many times your mood is changing in a day, if you took all your meds that day. Patterns of episodes etc.
I have a feeling that for me and my cycling, it probably would take a lot of meds to get it under control, but I'm just not willing to go on a lot, so I'm just trying to deal. In my bipolar support group, basically we would start our sessions with "where is your mood at today" (low-high) and then "what can you do to bring yourself down/up to stable?" I ask myself that when I feel a change or any extreme of the mood spectrum..."What can I do to help shift things a bit?" It's very effective for me.
I can elaborate more on this if you need me to. I'm beat, so I have to go to bed now, but I am thinking of you and you are definitely not alone. ((((hugs))))
If I could tell you anything that would improve your way of life, it would be to "go to the support group". I'm agoraphobic as well to a milder degree, and it was tough, but it changed my life. Keep it in mind, and maybe someday you will be able to do that. I understand.
My mood chart is set up for one month. It has 4 levels of high, 4 levels of lows to chose from each day. At the bottom it has a place for "how many mood changes/day" I fill in each mood I am feeling as the day goes on...it's hard to explain, and I got it from the hospital. Anyway, it's good you have one.
I hope you are well today. I am very depressed, too much stress going on right now.
I am not a medical professional, any advice give is purely from personal experience.
Always seek professional advice from your doctor.
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