What to do? Bad Day again

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missflip
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Date Joined May 2008
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   Posted 5/13/2008 10:19 AM (GMT -7)   
confused  Hi.  I'm still having a bad day today again.  I feel somewhat better but I'm still depressed!  I did go for a walk in the sunshine but I still feel bad.  Then my sister and neice showed up unexpected to my mom and dad's house who live just down the road from me.  When I am in this shape, I cannot function to carry on a conversation or visit with people.  I am much better alone where I can cope better (with my 9 month old of course who is my sunshine).  I feel pressured around people when I feel like this.  So I told my mom that I'm still not feeling well and didn't want company.  But then I feel bad about that too because my sister and neice haven't seen my baby in months because they live over an hour away.  Me being pregnant, I get car sick and can't travel far.  So now I feel worse because I am not seeing them but at the same time, I don't feel up to it either.  UUUUUGGGGGGG!!!  My husband says that I need to take care of myself first and not worry if they get made or whatever.  He is probably right.  I hate this disease!!

twisted71
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Date Joined May 2008
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   Posted 5/13/2008 11:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Missflip, I am sorry that you are feeling down again. I know what you mean about not wanting company but then feeling bad because you don't want company. Your husband is right though. if you don't feel up to it, then you need to take care of yourself first. I think they will be more understanding than you think. (speaking to myself also). Sometimes I don't even feel like calling my mother and then I feel guilty that I didn't call and when I do call I apologize and she says it's okay because she knows how I get and because she knows that I love her no matter what my mood is. So don't beat yourself up about it.

Sometimes, I will do my best to make myself get up and out of the house just because sometimes it does make me feel better. So maybe one of these times, you will be able to without much effort and then before you know it, you won't even be thinking about it. and remember we are here for you.
 
PS.  When I was pregnant last time it seemed to just go by so slowly.  At the time I didn't know that I am bipolar, but I experienced a lot of the same things you are now.  I tried to keep myself busy as much as I was able and that helped.  just keep thinking, you are almost half way and then before you know it, you will be more than half way and so on.  at least that worked for me, most of the time. 


AJL
 
I don't suffer from insanity, I enjoy every minute of it!

Post Edited (twisted71) : 5/13/2008 12:32:50 PM (GMT-6)


Georgie Girl
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   Posted 5/13/2008 1:57 PM (GMT -7)   
If your mom and sister know of your condition and understand, maybe a short visit with them would help, not hurt.  Now if they don't understand or have their own problems, I understand how you're not up to a visit.
I would always want to see my sister - she is very loving and supportive.  My dear mother is deceased but I could not always handle a visit with her - she was more bipolar and anxious than even I am, which added to my distress!
Georgie Girl


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   Posted 5/13/2008 2:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Perhaps the solution for you is that if you are up to it fine, if not, stay in your room. Perhaps allow your mother, or sister to take your 9mo old to the park, for a walk, or hang with him at your house while you rest. This way, they see the baby, but leave you be - to not pressure you...but then they also see their grandson/nephew? Call upon the best in all of you to understand and give each other space as needed. LFW
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