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mommom
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   Posted 5/18/2008 6:45 PM (GMT -7)   
 well my son has ADHD and now they say he is bipolar and they put him on invega, I really don't like him to be on all the meds that he takes but he needs them, I am so scared that something may happen but the doctors and everyone says I worry to much, he is only 7 and i just feel as i done something that made him this way, I just want him to be as happy as he can and live a normal life. He is like a time bomb sometimes, he will be fine one min. and the next he is someone different. I just need to talk to someone who understands.

loving frustrated wife
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   Posted 5/18/2008 8:35 PM (GMT -7)   
mommom, I am also a mom to a BP. My son was dx'ed at 8 1/2, and is now 14. The sooner intervention occurs for these kids the better on both an emotional and social level. Your job as mom is to work with the pdoc and therapists, and ALWAYS speak up on behalf of your child. Do not hesitate to speak your mind. However, ensure that you do it responsibly or you will loose the ear of the people supporting both your child and you.

You did not do anything to make your child this way, any more than a mother who discovers her child is diabetic. Guilt will serve nothing but prevent you for staying focused on what is best for your child.

I only have a moment, or I would write more...but just know your job is to work with the TOP pdoc around on your child's behalf. Ensure he/they are very versed on this condition in children vs. just adults. It does make a difference. Plus, if your child is also ADHD, it is better to learn of the BP now, as the medication has to be handled differently than if it is just ADHD or it could be bad for your child. SO...the fact that they caught it now...ALL the better for your son.

My son is now 14, and doing okay. We just all have to stay conscious and focused on his wellness. We are all part of his wellness team. Best of luck to you and your family. LFW

Post Edited (loving frustrated wife) : 5/18/2008 9:39:40 PM (GMT-6)


twisted71
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   Posted 5/18/2008 9:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi mommom, welcome to the board. As LFW said, it is nothing that you did. I know it is probably hard not to feel guilty about it but we are here for you to support you anytime you need us!
AJL
 
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serafena
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   Posted 5/19/2008 8:38 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi mommom,

I just wanted to take a moment to welcome you to the board and to Healing Well.

I'm sure it is nerve wracking to have your son on medication at such a young age, but it really is for his own good, and he will improve. And I agree with LFW and Twisted, the guilt is unnecessary. There is nothing you could have done to create this situation for your son, and harboring guilt will only get in the way of helping him feel better. I hope the road to finding a medication that works optimally goes quickly and smoothly.

serafena
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missflip
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   Posted 5/19/2008 12:51 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi mommom. Welcome. I am Bipolar II and pregnant with my second child. I have a 9 month old too. I worry that I may have passed along my mental illness to my children sometimes. But one has to remember that it is a chemical imbalance and not caused by anything you did. I inherited mine from my biological father and his family. I don't blame them though. It is just biological. Try to remember that. I know deep down that if my children end up with it, it really isn't my fault by anything that I did.

Good luck with your son. Early intervention is the best help you can give him. Catching it early and finding the right medications is key.

We are here for you.

Missflip
"I'm not crazy; I'm just a little unwell."  Matchbox Twenty


mommom
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   Posted 5/19/2008 8:09 PM (GMT -7)   
I just wanted to thank LFM, twisted, serafena, missflip, you have made me feel better about not blaming myself, it's just hard for me but I am speaking what is on my mind about my son to all of the doctors, I just want him to be a happy child and get along with his older sister and younger brother, they feel like I love him more then them but I love all my kids the same. I try to tell them he is different and he needs a little more of my time then they do, but I still make time for the other 2, after they get his bipolar under control they are going to switch his adhd meds. I know this is the best thing for my son and I am going to make sure he gets the best care that I can give him. thank you all for making me feel better and now I don't feel so alone.

loving frustrated wife
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   Posted 5/20/2008 7:28 AM (GMT -7)   
mommom, it is a hard to balance care for the child in need and not have the others feel neglected. I have found that if I set up "special" one on one time with the other two of mine during "high need" phases with the one that needs my attention, they have learned compassion for their brother, and realize that they are special too. I do only certain things with each child so that it is THEIR special thing. I caution you to not separate out that the brother is "different"...he is the same as them but is having a problem you all need to help him with, with focused help or understanding. This breeds acceptance and compassion. Also, happiness is something all parents want for our kids....remember some of happiness is taught by positive behaviors from us parents on how to achieve it. We must set the example for our kids in this area too. How to cope with problems (which in life everyone does) and still keep a positive disposition with proactive supportive behaviors. You're doing great...keep going. LFW

mommom
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   Posted 5/20/2008 6:40 PM (GMT -7)   
thanks lfw, I will do that with my kids and make them all feel the same thank you for your replys they really help me.

loving frustrated wife
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   Posted 5/20/2008 9:02 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm glad if they do. It is hard to go through and I know how much I appreciate feedback and advise from those who have walked this path before me. There is so much to learn. LFW

mommom
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   Posted 5/22/2008 6:16 AM (GMT -7)   
well my son has been having really bad nose bleeds and he passed out, the doctor says it not the invega but none of this started til he took it, the doctor said to stop giving it to him, I really think they should give him a different kind of med. that is just made for bipolar not made for a different disorder.

loving frustrated wife
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   Posted 5/22/2008 5:08 PM (GMT -7)   
My son started zoloft first to get the racing negative depression thoughts under control first, two weeks later we started trileptal...and inch at a time until we reached the right dose after 10 months. He has been on it ever since. So he takes zoloft, trileptal, tenex and stratterra. He is both BP & ADHD. LFW
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