Since I cant afford the gas I'll stay home and look for some helpful hints. I have hypomania-bipolar II mixed bipolar state. Briefly I was diagnosed six months ago, and recieving both medical and Pdoc help and feeling great. If i could get my marriage on track my life would be fantastic. I was wondering if any of you have had my experience? I was diagnosed after my wife said it was over. I got help and turned many things around (I did it my recovery solo, no help, save my pdoc). I have accepted my failure to her and asked for forgiveness. We tried marriage counsuling 3 years ago before i was diagonsed. Honestly I can't remember much of those meetings, I have a feeling that undiagonosed hypomania-depression (i was a master of going under Pdoc radar) may have affected any substansive changes. I also chalked up my (depression, ailments, lack of intimacy and clear thinking) condition to everything from sleep apnea to deslexia to "im just too tired". My mind could not grasp my condition (lack of insight) ALL of this just put my wife over the top with frustration.
Is it posible that marriage counceling under those (pre-diagonses) circumstances would be ineffective?
I ask this because she said "we tried it before and it didnt work", maybe she is right!
I would like to try again at marriage counseling.
How did YOU convince him or her to try ONE MORE TIME?
She has moved out and will not consider any reapproachment. I have taken a complete hands off approach, I do not ask or pressure her about us.
My Pdoc says I should grieve for my loss! Maybe she is right! and I can do nothing to save my marriage. We are faced with sever financial hardship, alot connected to my lavish spending on foriegn travel (a hypomania tendancy to spend money) I guess i am looking for some success stories (approachment) in how to save a marriage. Im not ready to grieve yet! or move on.
Everyone have a great Memorial weekend