I'm Krista/Georgie Girl and have been on this site for around three weeks. I AM the bipolar wife (diagnosed bipolar I mixed severe with psychotic features but currently under control). I don't have the anger aspect to my bipolar condition though. I put my dear husband through plenty of other stuff though. (Sleeping 20 hours a day;not knowing who or where I was for 13 days; being suicidal....)
Sounds like you are very supportive and understanding. I wish you didn't have to deal with the anger.
This is a great, supportive site; some members will be more help than me. I just want to welcome and encourage you.
Welcome aboard! I have bipolar and a husband with children.
I have bouts of anger episodes as well. Most of the time it doesn't take much to trigger them. When they first started it always meant a medication adjustment. Now that I have been dealing with bi-polar for quite some time, one on one therapy has helped me a lot. Through my therapy sessions I was taught how to handle my anger in more healthy ways and that takes lots of discipline!
A lot of the time, I just bite my tongue or walk away from stressful situations and concentrate on something else. Sometimes I'll admit, I just can't do that and usually regret the way that I have behaved or said something. Try not to take things personally. I would usually lash out at anyone that was near me...and they didn't deserve that.
One thing that always gets me to think twice is when I'm lashing out at my husband (who is usually a easy target because he totally understands my mood changes and will usually not hold me accountable) is when he says back to me, that he doesn't deserve how I am speaking to him and that he isn't going to put up with it or live the rest of his life this way, ...the way I treat him! It get's me angry when he says that and I usually tell him where he can go then....but it really does affect me when he says this instantly! I slow down and think about what he has said and realize that it is true and that I better back off! The repetiveness of the outburts is enough to drive any spouse crazy!!! And when he says it...I know he means it (he's been through enough with me). So, I take him quite seriously now!
I hope this helps.
Post Edited (Tuff love) : 5/30/2008 2:19:43 PM (GMT-6)
Post Edited (loving frustrated wife) : 5/31/2008 4:59:11 PM (GMT-6)