Good to hear from you again. I'm sorry you're struggling through some marriage troubles. We all have those, but yours are of course especially tough. I think it was good of you to stick around and try and work it out. Whether you continue to do so is of course up to you. It sounds to me, from what your husband said about the other woman and his comments about you only wanting him for sex, like he wants you to show more interest in him as a person and less as a sex partner. Can you increase the amount of time you spend just talking to him about his interests, his day, the children, what you watched on t.v.? Whatever it takes to connect with him on an intellectual or emotional level that isn't just about sex. I can appreciate that you want more sex, but once or twice a week is pretty normal for an adult. You're right that bp's can have more affairs, and it's impressive that with such a sex drive you've managed to avoid that trap.
Good luck with the lithium and I hope things smooth out for you and the dh.
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