Hi Little b,
It's nice to have you on the board, welcome to HealingWell.
It's easy to ask for a change of meds -- you just need to be a little brave if you're really non-confrontational. Tell him/her you are experiencing a number of side-effects you believe are coming from the depakote (he/she can tell you if they're not) and that you would rather be on something that wouldn't cause hairloss, etc. However, be sure to ask what the common side effects are of any new med he/she puts you on. A popular one is zyprexa, for instance which is effective but can cause weight gain.
Every med out there is going to have side effects, you just have to find one that has effects you can live with.
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