Spouse decided to stop meds, but mood swings are driving me away.

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miss cadillac
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   Posted 8/8/2008 10:02 PM (GMT -7)   
 
 
I have been married for ten years to a man that is both bipolor and poly-substance abuser. I am at a point where I can't deal with all this anymore. about 6 months ago, he decided to stop takin his paxil and depecote, he has been taking these for years. He swears he feels better. But I am getting the worst of his mood swings. He is hateful, angry, self-centered, and the list goes on.
 
He doesn't go to AA or to a therapist, and thinks he is just fine. I have seen this complacency about his sobriety before. (but he is usually on meds). Lets just say I know him more as being drunk than sober. So is attitude of his a combination of no meds, and being sober??  He just seems uptight and on edge around me. He seems fine around others, but so hateful to me....
 
Is this how its always going to be? If so I can't deal with this anymore....
 
I have stood by him for so long, the lost jobs, the empting out of the bank account, the drugs, the alcohol, the women....And all this time, I have been losing sight of what I need and what my kids really need. I am depressed and lonely and miserable.
 
 

serafena
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   Posted 8/9/2008 11:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Miss Cadillac,

Welcome to HealingWell and to the bipolar board.

Alcohol and substance abuse undo the good the drugs do anyway, so even if he was taking his drugs, they were doing him very little help. If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship which is not nurturing for your children, I think you may very well need to consider leaving. The bipolar can worsen terrible behavior but it is not the only cause of it. Your husband, if he chose to, could be in control of his moods and his behavior, but clearly he is choosing otherwise. You also are in control of your choices. What are you going to choose to put up with?

serafena
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miss cadillac
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   Posted 8/11/2008 8:33 AM (GMT -7)   

Thank you for the straight foward answer. I needed that!

 


luvluvmedo
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   Posted 9/10/2008 3:54 PM (GMT -7)   
blush   Hi there,sorry for your pain. My husband is alcholic and bi-polar, He has struggled with this for 20+ years. We are separated now because of the drinking and gambling. I cant take it anymore. I am not even sure how I feel about him or what I want. I dont want more of the same. It is your life take care of yourself and dont let it all slip away.
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