Hi, I am a grandmother of an 8 month old who's mom has bipolar and is cycling. I am afraid for the child's safety, as the mom has had several different guys over partying, to the apartment my son has paid for, and she has forced him out of. Her background is terrible, she has a mom with bipolar too, and a dad who could care less. Basically, she has learned how to servive by lying, crying and doing what it takes. She has not matured, and cannot look after herself. She does not know what love is. I don't mean to say, all the women with this disorder are like this. This is just my observation. She watched her mom take in several men and her dad the same. She has started to follow in their footsteps.
My son became involved with this girl at 17 and was taken in by her needyness etc. Soon she was pregnant, but would not tell her parents, in fact her mom did not know until after the baby was born. My son tried to do the right thing, move in to a place with her and make a go of it.
He soon became depressed as she did no cooking, no cleaning, did not get up in the night with the baby. She has beaten him in rages, and tried to choke him. Yet she has made him feel that he is the blame. He is now suicidal, believing he has brought a child into a horrible life situation, and believes the child will turn out just like his mom and grandma.
She is in denial, and won't commit to hospital, or change her meds. I understand when you are manic, you feel really great. I have seen her manic and depressed. I feel for her, but she hates us. She has taken the baby supposedly to her grandmothers, the only person left who will take her in. The grandmother is 70, and I fear will soon tire of doing all the chores. However, she would only give an address, not a phone number. I very much want to get in touch with her family, to make sure the baby is properly taken care of. They are 2 hours away from us.
Thanks for listening, I was wondering if from experience, any moms can tell me how difficult it is with a child. Can you handle the pressure, is your child your main focus?
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