How do you get your inner voice to be quiet?!

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Confusedli
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   Posted 10/2/2008 4:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi,
 
I have been doing really good lately, I have been calm & relaxed and not angry or moody or snappy.  BUT! this week I feel like it's starting to come back!!  Aaaarrrggghh! My thoughts are racing like crazy.  I cannot stop thinking. My inner voice is constantly whispering irrational thoughts to me, like that my boyfriend is cheating on me, or lying to me or not paying me enough attention or all kinds of things, which in reality are totally not true.  I have progressed to the point where I can generally keep these to myself, without causing arguements or trouble or throwing accusations around, but that doesn't mean that these sorts of thoughts don't hurt me, they tire me out so much.
 
Lately I have been so happy, my job is going great, relationship going great, family are good, for the last month or so everything has been lovely, but now all of a sudden my mind is working overtime again & causing problems where there are none!
 
Not even sure what I am looking for in writing this, I am seeing my counsellor tomorrow so hopefully that will help!

Confusedli
 
"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."
 
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain"


serafena
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   Posted 10/2/2008 6:36 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Confusedli,

I'm glad to hear you're seeing your counselor tomorrow and I hope that helps. I would take this as a clue that meds aren't working perfectly and talk to your doc too. It's like something is breaking through your defenses.

There's a book about healing those terrible thoughts that sabotage us. It's by David Burns and it's called Feeling Good.

I hope you feel better soon.

serafena
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Confusedli
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   Posted 10/3/2008 2:31 AM (GMT -7)   
I don't take any medications, I have tried a few & have had bad reactions - generally i don't feel that I need then, just having a bad phase atm i think, I have read parts of that book & it has been really helpful
Confusedli
 
"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."
 
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain"


sukay
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   Posted 10/3/2008 11:09 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Confusedli,

I agree with serafena that having an appointment with your counselor and bringing up this issue is very important. Hope you update us on your visit.

I like the quotes that you found and posted at the end of your post. I think you should meditate more on these.

Best wishes! blush


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brannon97
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   Posted 10/8/2008 12:52 PM (GMT -7)   
I know exactly what you're talking about as far as the quieting the inner voice. That's always my first sign that I'm losing my grip. Sometimes it gets so loud and it takes soooo much energy to quiet it. My husband doesn't understand when I tell him how exhausted I am by the time I get off work. He thinks that because I sit at a desk all day, I shouldn't be tired at all. He doesn't know how draining it is to fight with your mind all day. Little by little, your mind wears you down and you just start to give up and lose control even faster.

Confusedli
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   Posted 10/10/2008 3:15 AM (GMT -7)   
 it really does wear you down, sometimes I can argue with my inner voice for hours!  Or sometimes i just blindly listen to it and think what it says is right!  it's so frustrating!!
Confusedli
 
"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."
 
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain"


moreAmor
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   Posted 10/10/2008 10:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Feeling Good by David Burns is a good book. I'm reading it at the moment and I really like what he has to say. I really recommend it.

My inner voice bothers me a lot too. It tells me all sorts of things that I know deep down are irrational, but somehow I believe what it says anyway. What helps me is that I sit down and think about what's going on in my life and try to find reasons why the inner voice is lying. Like, I always feel people are constantly talking bad about me or thinking I'm a terrible person. But then I think to myself, now, have they said anything to my face to make me believe that? Have I ever even talked with them? Do they even know who I am, what I've been through? It's hard work, but once you start thinking why your inner voice is wrong, it becomes less difficult to overcome it.
I’m lonely; gotta look for a party
And dance with somebody tonight
Cuz I’m lonely; I feel empty inside
Can’t you make me feel alive?

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Martha's Vineyard
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   Posted 10/11/2008 10:11 PM (GMT -7)   
I am new to all of this bi polar stuff. But I don't think that being strong willed or a good book or a counselor is going to help someone who has a chemical imbalance in their brian. It is not a sign of weakness to get some medication to help your brian put out the stuff that it should to help you be happy or content. And if you cannot be happy in your own skin, gosh, I felt so terrible and wanted to even tell off the mirror. The sad face in the mirror made me mad. When I was like this I could only see the thorns. Screw the roses....lol
It is hell going through life thinking that every time you here someone laughing that they are laughing at you. One has to be able to be happy in their own skin. No one else can do it. And in order to be someone that others want to be around. You have to do what you need to do to get better. And if that means going to a Dr. then so be it. Get the help that you need to feel better. To be better.
I got Lymes in 2004. So did my 11 mos old daughter and my favorite dog Toto.


serafena
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   Posted 10/12/2008 12:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Martha's Vineyard,

I agree with you that medicine is often the best approach, but for many people, they are too afraid or have had too many bad experiences to take it. I've got to disagree with you about books and counselors, though. For one thing, the medicine can only do so much. I do believe it's crucial to try and find a medical approach which works for you. But there isn't one pill out there that is going to "fix" you. The pills make the symptoms better and the rest is up to you. We ARE still responsible for the choices that we make in our lives, despite having a brain chemical imbalance. If we don't take responsibility for our health and just say "Well, I have a mental illness, I don't have to be strong or read books or see a counselor," then we have given our whole lives over to the disease, and just given up. That is unacceptable, and that is how we hear of manic people going completely off the deep end destroying their families, making terrible financial decisions, getting into trouble with the law, and hurting people. Maintaining balance while bipolar requires constant effort and a multi-layered approach. Medicine is a first line of defense, but as you'll see as you read the boards, medicines stop working, doses need to be adjusted, new medicines need to be tried, there are side-effects -- medicine is not fail-proof. So to keep yourself sane, you have to work on managing your moods yourself. Learn some new techniques for doing that. Learn about your triggers. Learn about what starts up a manic cycle, or a depressive cycle. Learn how to avoid them. Learn about your emotional life by seeing a counselor. Learn about how stress plays a part in bipolar. That is where the books and the counselors come in.

I know you weren't implying that we go cold turkey -- that you were actually saying she should get help. I just wanted to say that I think we need ALL these things to stay healthy.

serafena
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fast1toochase
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   Posted 10/21/2008 6:46 PM (GMT -7)   

 im not the only one out there with my head going a mile a min.   It is so tiring to have these thoughts going on all day.  I can't get them to stop then i go into a panic about everything. past, present, and Future.  The thoughts in my head can make me feel as if i am going crazy, its like squirrels running around in my head.  I just want to be comfortable in my own skin.

 

 

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