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tcosyrosie
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   Posted 10/10/2008 7:45 PM (GMT -7)   
my husband is bipolar and its driving me away from him

moreAmor
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   Posted 10/10/2008 7:56 PM (GMT -7)   
I would find him a counselor so he can talk to someone about how he's feeling and they can give him coping skills. I'd go to the library and check out a few books on bipolar disorder too. You both could read them, him so he finds out what to do about being bipolar, and you so you can learn how to be supportive for him.

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serafena
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   Posted 10/10/2008 8:32 PM (GMT -7)   
tcosyrosie,

Hi and welcome to HealingWell. I'm sorry to hear you're having trouble with your marriage right now. Can you get more specific? What exactly is your husband doing that's driving you away? Is it his bipolar in general or some behavior that's driving you nuts?

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tyno3
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   Posted 10/11/2008 7:53 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm so sorry to hear that. How long have you been together? I personally am BiPolar and had about two dozen relationship partners over my life. I am over fifty now, an don't even try anymore. BiPolar partners can't trust themselves to be and feel the same from day to day. So it's doubly hard to have a partner who has comitted him or her self to the relationship when the BiPolar's experiencing shifts in mood and behavior. He might be trying to protect you from his pathos.I often left relationships before to much time had passed feeling I was doing the other partner "ä favor". Sometimes a BiPolar feels so dark inside they want to be alone there, and not have to struggle through the blackness to maintain the status quo. Does this make any sense. When I have to force myself to push aside the blackness to function on any level, I get tremendous anxiety. Anxiety is the absolute worst feeling of all. There is no peace, no place to go, it's like standing out on the roadside all alone with no destination. Hope you can get through this intact. Sometimes relationship counselling can help. If for example you had a "safe"word your partner could use when he needed to isolate for a bit, you could help him by not demanding anything until he was able to rejoin the world.

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   Posted 10/11/2008 9:40 PM (GMT -7)   
tyno3 that is some very good advice that you are giving. very heart felt and nice.
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