My husband and I have been on/off for 4 years and recently married in August. We had a wonderful summer and I didn't see the behavior that I had in the past-i.e.verbal abuse, threatening/following through to call the relationship off, impulsive behavior. He said that he regretted what he had done.
So we married. At the end of September it's been walking on eggshells for me. Every little thing sets him off, and I will sit on the couch listening to him call me the worst names and I say nothing. I will say nothing because if I do it makes him more angry and I don't want our kids (his kids/my kids-none together) to hear.
This past Tuesday he packed all his and his girls things and moved. I asked him to wait until this weekend when none of the kids would be here and not in the middle of a school week. He said "i'm not staying here another night". I couldn't believe it. Who does something like this???
He told his oldest daughter (who happened to be sick with mono) over the phone that he and I were getting divorced. She was devestated and called her mom. She (ex-wife) called him and told him to get a lawyer because she thinks there is something mentally wrong with him to do this to the girls.
She (ex-wife) stopped over at my house yesterday to pick up a few things her girls have left behind. She told me that his mother is bipolar and she thinks he is, too. He never told me that, but at least his reactions/behavior makes some sense.
I haven't spoken to him since Tuesday, but it's always his MO to think and regret and come back.
My questions: This has been such a nightmare that I don't know if it's worth staying no matter how much I love him and his girls. Is it significantly better when someone with BP is taking meds?
Also, who does one broach the subject when they suspect someone has BP?
I'm sorry if this post is disjointed. I have no idea what to do.
Thanks for any help.