PVGUY, While I have not read your other post, and I just visited briefly today and saw your note....as a spouse to a BP, I think I get it without needing to know more to answer this question you pose. I would say the same for anyone by the way whether it comes to a BP or not - claiming to see the error of their ways and offering apologies. The fact is this...once a person apologizes for ones actions, words, attitudes or such...it is not what they say anymore that counts, it’s only what they do. In the case of a person potentially with BP, the action is whether or not the "revelation" changes their behavior and actions. DO they seek a proper dx and treatment? DO they own they have an issue and work towards understanding it and correcting behaviors? Do they get conscious about themselves and day in and day out, even if not perfectly, work to stand by the changes they profess in their original apology? Although we have not seen Dutchie and FootballFan for a while, here was a couple where the spouse who discovered they had BP did all she could do to get treatment, own her condition, stand by her sincere apology, make new choices that were in line with the life she claimed she “really” wanted. Trust, she knew, would have to be earned back over time. And from what they allowed us to see, I think we all felt her sincerity over time and believed the changes she was making were real. It may do you good to read some of their old postings. But the bottom line is, THAT is the measure, and I don't think anything but time allows you to know. Once any revelation or apology is said, it is then whether the actions and permanent changes back it up for you to know what is real or trustable. Does this make sense to you?
I wish you and your family the best and hope your choices are wise for you all. LFW