my wife suffers from depression and bipolar.
Ive been with her going on 5 years, and, it seems to be getting worse.
I've read about a bazillion pages here and elsewhere and I just don't know what to do.
She takes her meds regularly, in fact, the Psyc.Doc just upped her wellbutrin to 200 a day, plus she's on straterra and a couple of others.
Heres some background. She was sexually abused as a child, multiple suicide attempts (long before I met her, she's well into middle age.)
Used to abuse alcohol, (still does on occasion) and takes vicodin (10-20 every day) supplied by a relative.
Unable to keep a job for more than a year (gets bored) and has some disturbing behavior patterns.
The fly in the ointment is she seems to go off the deep end, cycling moods from euphoria and not sleeping for days, to deep depression where getting awake is a chore. This was happening yearly, now its on a 3 month merry go round.
She refuses talk therapy, and excuses her behaviors to "I'm bi-polar" with a shrug of the shoulders.
We speak calmly of her disorder, but when I press for real action, she spends days away from our home, withdraws even further, accuses me of pressuring her, and again, within days, she's home, all is well, buried under the carpet again.
I know I'm enabling her to do this, but I don't want to leave her either.
The amount of emotional stress, financial matters and hopeless/helpless I feel is taking a grave toll.
Short of a "Come to Jesus" meeting, what pray tell do I do?