My heart goes out to you lostwife! It really does. I read so much of my own self in your posts that it made me cry. I felt strong and empowered and prepared to move on until the phone call came begging for another chance to make things work. Begging for a new start. Begging for his family back. I went for it.......
Two days later, he is still in the bed, unable to bathe, brush his teeth, function. Oh, except he can send text messages to his ex-assistant who became his crutch through his worst cycle ever and tried every trick in the book to "replace" me. I feel for him and am trying to help him, but he is not showing me any respect or honoring any of his promises.
Stay strong and listen to your heart AND your brain. Let them work together to bring you the answers you seek. Re-read your previous posts and remember where you were 4 months ago. Then think about how far you have come. Be compassionate, but protect yourself and your kids. And be sure to take care of yourself!!!
I really wish there was something I could say to help you. I cannot imagine being in your position. I would like to think that I wouldn't put up with that stuff either, but I don't know. You draw the lines in your head, then when they cross them you let them because you love them so much. All I can tell you is to stay strong for yourself & your kids, right now it sounds like you are all they have.
Wishing you the best,