Wife has crohn's disease and is bp

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keepinghope
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   Posted 1/2/2009 6:01 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello everyone
 
My wife has severe crohn'n disease and is bipolar. She has gotten herself into a relationships with a man 17 years younger believing he is the love of her life even though he is married. She even attended the birth of his child. I do the cooking,cleaning,laundry and dishes.
She will get up from eating supper and go out coming back to go to bed. She filed for a divorce then expected me to leave the home taking nothing but my clothes. She finally got out of our bed 6 months after filing. Ive been accused of everything under the sun.
Her doctors say she has to ask for help, though she feels there is nothing wrong with her.She has lost substancial weight due to crohn's, so she buys new clothes every week. I find it very difficult and our kids dont see it. 

serafena
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   Posted 1/2/2009 11:05 AM (GMT -7)   
Lightsout,

If your wife has filed for divorce, why are you still with her? If she's seeing someone else, why do you put up with it?

serafena
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keepinghope
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   Posted 1/2/2009 12:30 PM (GMT -7)   

Serefena

Due to legalities, the divorce prcess is very slow, otherwise I will be the loser big time. sad


BPTT
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   Posted 1/31/2009 9:08 PM (GMT -7)   
I am bipolar as well and have also been diagnosed with crohn's disease but I'm not too sure on that one (you'll see why later).

As you would know, no meds really helped (at least not much) - either illness.

Anyways, to get to the point, about 5 years ago, a family that im close to recommended that i see their doctor, who is a traditional western doc that also practices natural medicine. She was able to tell me very specifically what foods i personally should avoid to reduce any flare ups. She also gave me a series of (painful) injections directly into my intestines/colon and they WORKED! For the first time in over a decade I wasnt in the bathroom every second. Her visits were really expensive - sometimes I'd pay $2000 for the visit and shots.

So now to last year, had a terrible breakdown (which is so strange because I had a fling with a 17 year old myself. I think this is why your post caught my attention) and of course the depression and sleeping the entire day, could do nothing for myself. Very dissassociated but could somehow come alive in the pm to go clubbing. crashed bad bad bad and started meds again which I think was worse that the depression. I was determined to stay on them though.

Till it occured to me while at my TCM (traditional Chinese medicine) Doctor to ask what the TCM philosophy is on mental illnessess, specifically bipolar disorder. While they don't recognize it by name, they do believe that emotional and mental problems have physical manifestations and one of mine was what other docs diagnosed as crohns.

Switching to his natural "prescriptions" HAVE MADE ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN MY LIFE. Noticable within 2 or three days! I'm actually tearing up writing this. I HAVE NO AWFUL SIDE EFFECTS. I have energy. I can wake up earlier on a morning. I feel like myself. Im not in a haze. No stomach trouble. I love that I can function during the day. I hate myself when i sleep all the time. I wasnt trying to be lazy. My body was always so tired. I can play with my kids, cook. I can think and analyse my behaviour alot better.

about a week ago, I realized I was crying a bit again, getting a bit angry, couldn't get up early anymore (no where near as bad as before) - went back to him and he gave me 3 days of herbs(?) to make a brew to supplement the pills i take. Worked right away again.

Now it doesnt make you perfect. And you still need to find the right formula for you AT THAT TIME. Be alert to any changes. And I still think therapy is necessary.

Of course, Im not advising you. But sharing my experience so you dont give up. We all want to be well. I really wish you the best.

shebsy
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   Posted 2/1/2009 5:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Is your wife taking her medicines? It sounds like she is going through a hypomanic phase - the shopping sprees, neglecting her chores, the increased social activity, etc. Is she seeing a psychiatrist and a counselor? Maybe you should get her to see a psychiatrist because it is her illness that is responsible for all her crazy behaviour. She probably does not even realize the consequences of divorce - when I was hypomanic and I got caught driving without a license, I asked the cops to arrest me. The police officer was really kind and he let me off and told me not to do that again. I did it again because I wanted to get arrested. This is how crazy people can get during hypomania.

serafena
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   Posted 2/1/2009 6:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi BPTT,

Thanks for joining HealingWell and it is fantastic that you found something that worked well for you. Thanks for sharing your story with us.

serafena
Serafena
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