Hey BD spouce,
Hopefully this will help him. The three times my wife went in a faility like that, they just seemed to enable her behavior, but hopefully that won't be the case for you guys. At least there is some effort that is being made now & that is a positive thing.
Best of luck to you guys,
I really don't mean to sound so negative about this, it really is a good thing for him to go & try to get some help. You should give yourself a huge pat on the back for helping him make this progress. My wife went to a private hospital that took are of patients with conditions like hers & substance abuse problems. She went because of suicidal thoughts. She spent her days in group sessions, & one on one every day with her pdoc. They had very limited contact with the outside world. Phone calls & visitations were only allowed for a few hours in the evening, & they were restricted to what they ould watch on TV during their free time. Unfortunatly, my wife didn't give them the full story while she was in there, she put on the happy face & told them what they wanted to hear so they would let her go home. (Except for the third time when she had to leave beause my company let me go & our insurance was going to expire.) Then when she got home it was back to the same old thing. Actually the first two times (she was in three different times between sept & nov) we didn't make it 10 miles down the road before she started up with the same stuff she always does. The second time she came home & it all erupted again & she went bak to the hospital 2 days later. They told her during admission then that after she was discharged whe would not be able to come back for 6 months because they didn't want her to form dependancy on them & the next time she went to the hospital she would have to go to the institution. The hospital wouldn't let me talk to the docs because she was there by her own admission & that it was up to her to tell the docs everything, not me. So I have no idea what the docs have talked to her about, just what she says(which always seems to suit her needs). She even told me that the docs told them that if smoking helped to keep them calm, then smoke away! Sorry, I just have a hard time believing that ANY doc would tell a patient that. Her mother & I went to a family session with her while she was in the second time & all the counselor was concerned about was my wife feeling like her needs were being heard. The counselor didn't say anything when I brought up the violence & total verbal abuse from her, all she had to say was that when we notice her starting to escalate to tell her to calm down, I guess I just felt like the counselor should have agreed that this was unacceptable behavior. Anyway, all three times she has come home it has been with the attitude of "I'm gonna act like this because I have this condition & you are just gonna have to deal with it." She hasn't actually said that exatly, but has told me numerous times that she can't control things & the docs have told her that she won't be able to. Again it just sounds to me like she changes the story to fit her needs. I just can't picture a doc telling someone that.
Wasn't trying to be a hijacker there, just giving you the story of my experiance. I truly hope your hubby comes home with a clearer head & a good attitude.