Wow! Been there. I got confronted one time during the "you're cheating on me" phase. She had went thru my strong box "looking for evidence" of me cheating. I have had this box since I was a teenager & have always kept stuff in it, so there was some things buried in it from way back. Guess what happened next! It turned into an all night argument about how I was still hung up on girls from High school 20years ago, & 10 years before I met my wife! But boy the paranoia just got fed on that one!
Good to hear that you are going to therapy to get some help in dealing with everything. The excersising sounds like a good step too, keep channeling things in a positive way & working to reduce your stress levles. Sounds like you are on a good path on your side of things anyway, & that's really the best thing you can do, so keep it up!
Have a good day!
Yep you are right. You and I and a lot of others could write each others posts. It is sad that this condition effects so many people, not just the person that has it. My wife hasn't went through my web history lately, she did a long time ago though. Like you, I have nothing to hide, but that rarely matters it seems. Somehow they get it in their head that they have things to be suspicious about. I think a lot of that was trying to find something on me to justify her own things she was doing at the time. I keep waiting for her to come here & start reading posts of mine, & dummy me used a screen name that would be a dead giveaway. Oh well, she can read if she wants, I'm sure it would start a fight, but that's o.k. too. As for things on my end right now, her pdoc increased her meds last week & it really seems to be helping with her. She still has some bouts of depression, but they are pretty mild comparativly. We are going thru a pretty smoothe spot right now, so who knows how long it will last. I can just soak it up while it does.
I know exactly how you feel about your marriage being in the toilet. I have got to where that still comes and goes, but my wife is really trying to get better too. She knows she has something wrong & is tired of feeling the way she does & wants to get better. Last night she was telling me all of this & apologized for her behavior she has & thanked me for putting up with it. I really think that her last therapy session opened her eyes up, she made the comment that you know you have problems when a therapist stops writing & just looks at you. Ever since that appt she has had a different behavior.
Anyhow, I'm rambling. I hope things come around for you soon. Maybe he will get a wake up call that brings him around.
Best wishes for you