OMG. My head is going to explode.

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BD_spouse
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   Posted 1/20/2009 10:32 PM (GMT -7)   
So DH called me tonight from his facility?  Ya, I didn't think he was allowed calls/visitors for 7 days either...
Anyways.  He told me that his anxiety is through the roof so bad that he doesn't even want to leave his room and they might discharge him based on lack of participation?  (if i remember correctly).  I am so frustrated and angry and anxious myself thinking about him coming home.  I honestly cannot do this right now but he has no where to go if he leaves there.  I can't babysit him and my kids.  I can't move my house across town plus pack up his store.  I can't watch him self destruct because if he relapses again, I honestly don't think that he'll live through it.  He was such a mess this last one this past weekend if it gets worse...........I really don't want to think about it.  Apparently the director of the facility will be there at 7:30am tomorrow.  I'm going to be on the phone at 7:30 on the dot to find out what the heck is going on.  I called there tonight as well and talked to one of the facilitators.  He said he spoke to him earlier today as well and if he needs to they can take him to see a doctor tonight or he can see the resident doctor in the morning.
Seriously - - - I don't think I can handle much more stress and I sure can't cut anymore of my hair off!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Maybe my next de-stressor should be a massage?  Good grief - I'm gonna go broke WITHOUT his help of spending money if I don't find something more constructive soon. 
I wish I didn't have asthma, I could SO go for a run right now!
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do."
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Rocketman
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   Posted 1/21/2009 7:12 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey BD;

What a rough road you are having to travle. I was really hoping that him going in would start to turn things around. I would think that they would be trying to treat his BP while he was drying out & understand that he is fighting two conditions. The BP ondition is enough of a fight (on both sides) without and addiction on top of it so you guys definatly have your work cut out for you. I hope today will be a better day for the both of you. As for the stress release, not really sure what might help. Sometimes I will go outside & crush my soda cans that I have saved up. that helps. It's amazing how releasing aggression by stomping something flat can mamke you feel better! lol

Things will get better, remember that. Stay strong. Keep us posted & we will try to help if we can.

Rocket
"The struggles make you stronger, and the changes make you wise, and happiness has it's own way of taking it's sweet time.
Gary Allan- From "Life Ain't Always Beutiful"


serafena
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   Posted 1/21/2009 8:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Was he specific about what made the facility bad? Did you get the sense that the facility was truly a bad place to be or that he was simply being stubborn? You need some help. Time to call on some family members to help organize some of his care. If he wants out of that place, it should be into another facility. Someone (not you) needs to research and find another facility that will help him in the same way and accept your insurance.

serafena
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BD_spouse
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   Posted 1/21/2009 9:55 AM (GMT -7)   
I called the facility and they said that they had no intention of discharging him. That he was in the right place and as long as he behaves he'll be there for the entire duration of his treatment. So obviously he was full of it. I guess it's hard to know what is the truth coming out of an addicts mouth sometimes? Maybe he didn't think that I'd check on his story. I just hope they can see through his BS - i'm sure they can - but he can be VERY manipulative and will use anything he needs to get what he wants... (except violence)
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do."
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MARK TWAIN


Rocketman
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   Posted 1/21/2009 1:18 PM (GMT -7)   

Well that's good news. At least you found out what is really going on. It sucks that you have to treat everything they say with suspicion when they are like this. I guess if it doesn't sound right to you, then it probably isn't.

glad you got things cleared up,

Rocket


"The struggles make you stronger, and the changes make you wise, and happiness has it's own way of taking it's sweet time.
Gary Allan- From "Life Ain't Always Beutiful"


4support
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   Posted 1/21/2009 7:08 PM (GMT -7)   

I just can't even imagine what you and your family are feeling as you are going thru this with your husband.  Really hope he can be honest and ask for the help he needs, and I hope he is in a good facility where they can help him.  But again, you have to WANT the help.  For years my husband was in denial and thought everyone (me, the doctors and therapists) were all idiots and had no idea what they were talking about, that bipolar was a 'made up' condition.  It took at least 5 years before I found a clinic with a great reputation to help him accept his illness.  Even though, he still denies some of his behaviour

It makes it hard to be someone's support system if they don't let you be.

Well, I am thinking of you and will say a prayer for you.  Wish I could be more support, but we are all here 4 you.

Lots of love to you and your children as you move thru this,

4support

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