We need Loving Frustrated Wife for this question... She has a bipolar child as well.
I don't have a clear answer for you, impsituation, I'm sorry. I just don't have any experience or knowledge in this area. But I do know there are several books out there which speak to the subject. You might find a trip to your local bookstore offers you a little relief and some new ideas.
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