yeah the holidays probably have a lot to do with it. Hopefully thing will stay good with everyone for a while. Sumertime can be rough sometimes, my wife hates the hot weather & our son being out of school & bouncing off the walls doesn't help either!
Anyhow, hope everyone has a good week. Isn't it nice when you don't have to think "maybe tomorrow will be better."
I was the one that made the initial observation. I just happened to notice that most of the people that replied to posts (except serafena) had under 20 posts!
For me, well i'm quiet b/c my DH was in treatment (yes you read right, WAS)... that's a story for tomorrow and I moved over the weekend and didn't have internet! oops gotta run!
Sorry to hear about how hard of a time you are having right now. I can imagine how overwhelemed you are. Before my wife got i had such a hard time a while back dealing with my wife before she was officially diagnosed, plus having a 6 year old with Autism & my helper at work that had severe add & adhd (plus a little more I think). I would sometimes get to work early just so I could sit in my truck by myself for 10 mins just to get time to myself without dealing with all that stuff.
Hang tough & keep on doing what you are doing, after all your actions are the only ones you have complete contol of.
Hi Rocketman...and all friends!
For some reason, it didn't seem like as long as it's actually been since I've been on here sharing & replying to posts, but I realized yesterday it had been a while! - - for me, thank goodness it's been smooth as of late. The holidays were not good as with many of you. But both my husband and I are in counseling (separately) and things are moving along fine (right now). His meds seem to be stable and he seems to be gaining some awareness of his behaviours. I wish I could just relax and embrace it all, but I can't yet. I am wondering - once he has more awareness, does it stick? I mean, is this one of the keys to stability in the marriage?
I started to come out of my funk a couple of weeks ago which I am SO thankful for. My hubbie's behaviour I feel was breaking me, and I was feeling depressed and hopeless about our relationship. But also, I started back in nursing school in January and my life has become very hectic again w/adding school into the mix. It's a good thing getting more into a routine again.
Even so, I am going to try to make a bigger effort to check in more often. I'm thinking of all of you & want to be there for support and conversation as much as I possibly can. Sorry it's been a while, but my thoughts of you are never far away! For now, sending hugs and prayers for the best...
More soon, I'm off to class!
Glad to hear things are looking up. Going back to school will be great for you. I am sure him getting leveled out has helped so much. I know it would be impossible to go to school & fully concentrate on things if he wasn't doing welll. Him beoming aware of his actions is a huge step. When he is like realizing things, then he is thinking rationally & for himself, not the BP doing it for him. Sure he will probably have moments where he backslides, but as long as he stays with the meds & does what his docs tell him, maybe they won't be that often or as severe.
Hope things continue to go well for you.
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The things you are going thru with your hubby is really pretty similar to what the rest of us have gone thru with our spouces, the alien conspiracy is a little out there, but my wife also has her paranoia & conspiracies, mostly just me & her mother plotting against her. But the I'm under control, you have the problem not me & everything revolving around him, yep that's pretty much typical. I can understand your feelings about being checked up on while posting here. I feel the same way a lot, & dummy me used a name that would be a dead giveaway. Thankfully she hasn't done that yet that I know of, I probably would have heard about it if she did.
Be sure to come back often & read the forums others have posted, you will find that you are definatly not alone out there. I think we all were that way at first, thinking there is no way that anyone could be going thru what we are. But as you will see, that isn't the case. Come back and post often as well, this place is a good place to vent. You will find nothing but support from everyone here & the people here that have BP themselves can offer a lot of insight as to what it's like on the other side of things.