Post Edited (theronson) : 3/8/2009 12:19:03 PM (GMT-6)
That's tough theronson. My bp husband has a spending issue as well. We are in DEEP debt. He's a control freak, but slowly he has agreed to let me handle the budget. Of course that also means that I am in charge of getting us out of the financial mess he's put us in. My DH does not use credit anymore.
After he makes a large unnecessary purchase, he is remorseful and I have asked him to return things on ocassion. He has returned them.
I would say that you should definitely make it one of the conditions to you getting back with your wife. Don't give in. Be strong about this issue. It's very stressful dealing with a bp spouse's spending during an episode especially when it affects your credit too!