Help with son.....bipolar?

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patty louise
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   Posted 3/14/2009 10:05 PM (GMT -7)   
My son, 42 has been living on the streets & drinking alcohol since age 17. The last 8 years we have reunited & he comes home for several months at a time. Each time we get closer. When he feels the need to drink he leaves as he can't drink here. This time was different. He didn't want to leave. But he stopped eating & was sleeping all of the time. Then he became very paranoid & started having hallucinations. I was afraid that he would act on his hallucinations &  I was afraid to leave him alone. I had crisis come to our house & they admitted him to the hospital Wed. March 11. I talked with him on the phone today & he is the same. I am afraid that they are treating him as a detox case. He hasn't had a drink in 2 months. I am thinking he is bipolar. I think when he starts getting depressed, he turns to alcohol.  How is bipolar diagnosed? I don't think the doctors want me telling them what his problem could be but upon reading I really think that he is bipolar.  The doctors don't seem to want to listen to me. What can I do? If they don't know him how can they see how different he is?  The doctor said that he didn't tell him about the hallucinations. Duh. How could he when he thinks what he sees is real?
 
Any advice? I am so worried about him.

saleha77
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   Posted 3/15/2009 3:13 AM (GMT -7)   
What he needs is a good shrink,and it is not diagnosed in just one session.If your healthcare is nto doing their job,keep complaining.

patty louise
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   Posted 3/15/2009 5:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you so much Saleha. I really think this has been his problem all along. He has lived a terrible life after many hospitals told me to kick him out (tough love) when he was a teen. I will have to make them listen to me. I don't have a lot of faith in some of the doctors. I know there are good ones out there, guess I will just have to find one.

Dianne Hansen
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   Posted 3/15/2009 1:47 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi there,

My name is Dianne and my husband is bipolar and has had extreme bipolar episodes in his past years. He's been locked up and hospitalized and psychoanalyzed and put in counselling groups, etc etc.

I'm new here and I want to introduce myself slowly and carefully so I don't hurt anybody's feelings.

The thing with us is that we're not in trouble anymore... my husband is basically stable. The other thing is we didn't accomplish that with drugs. We used alternative meds.

I'll just leave it at that for now, waiting to see if anybody is interested to know such things... You're so welcome to see our website where we'd like to let all the bipolar people in the world know that complementary and alternative meds can change your life--give you a life.

In friendship,

Dianne Hansen

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serafena
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   Posted 3/15/2009 4:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi pattylouise,

Bipolar is diagnosed primarily through the presence of mania, which you don't mention at all. Let me direct you to a couple of good web sites, which you may have already seen, and you can check over the lists and see if the symptoms seem to fit your son.

If he is in the hospital for detox, they are probably checking him for depression, because alcoholism and depression go hand in hand. When he comes out, ask him if he is being treated for depression. If he is not, urge him to see a psychiatrist for an evaluation. (This is how bipolar or any other psychiatric disorder is diagnosed.) There are clinics in most towns that offer services on a sliding scale to people who are unemployed, if money is a concern.

Hope this is helpful. Here are those websites...

serafena

www.mayoclinic.com/health/bipolar-disorder/DS00356/DSECTION=symptoms

www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/bipolar-disorder/summary.shtml
Serafena
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patty louise
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   Posted 3/15/2009 5:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you so much Serafena for those web sites. I will read them tonite. I am just sick in my stomach over what has happened to him. It's like a mental breakdown.

justz4u
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   Posted 3/15/2009 11:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Pattylouise,
has he seen any psychiatrist before? best to have a proper assessment and diagnosis.
Biploar is like extreme mood swing, a period of depression and a period of mania.
it affects energy level. sleep, mood, socializing with others, etc.
you mention that he felt paranoid and was hallucinating, perhaps there was some psychotic symptoms as well.
it will be better to bring him to see a psychiatrist asap.
good luck

patty louise
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   Posted 3/16/2009 6:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks to everyone! He was in several treatment programs in his teens & I was told he didn't want to quit drinking. End of story. We just thot he was an alcoholic (which he is) & didn't want help. Now I think he wants help. And I think he drinks to fight off whatever (bipolar, mania) is going on with him.

This espisode was a first. He has never acted like this before. When he comes home he's coming off of a drunk & sleeps, drinks a lot of water & after about 4 days he's fine. He's very hyper, talks non stop, very comical, eats a lots. Then he gets antsy & wants to leave so he can drink again. This time he didn't seem to want to leave. He got into this mood of not talking at all & just staying in his room. He would come to me about every 2 hours saying that he was leaving because bad things were happening to us because he was here. Said he felt guilty for lying to me over the years. He stopped eating. We had to convince him take a shower after about 3 days. He constantly wanted us to tell him that we wanted him to stay here. I really think he was trying to starve himself. Was very despondent. Then he said God was sending him signs that we wanted him dead. Then he started seeing & hearing things that weren't there. That's when I called the crisis center.

I talked to him yesterday & he did sound a little better & I will visit him today. He is still a little confused & may very well be back in the down mood when I see him. When he was here his mood would change from minute to minute. I am hoping that he really is better. I am going to ask him to sign the paper giving the doctor permission to release his treatment program to me. Afterall he is staying with us & I feel like I need to know what is going on, how to react & what I can do to help him.

I must admit that I had given up on him many years ago. I am praying everyday that this "mental breakdown" is a good thing & will take him in the right direction to turn his life around. He's such a great person.

patty louise
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   Posted 3/16/2009 6:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Serafena I just read the symptoms of the manic & depressive phase of bipolar & yes, I see most of those in him. Thanks so much for that info.
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