Welcom to our group. You will find a lot of support here. Most of the folks here are BP sufferers themselves, but there are a lot of spouces of a BP person here as well. I can tell you this, just about every one of the spouces on here have went thru what you are going thru. Unfortunatly, your hubby is showing "classic" signs of the behavior of this condition. I have went thru what you are going thru & so have many of the others here. The bad thing is that he has to make the decision himself to try to get better & follow the treatment plan given to him. You can't make him & niether can his doctors, all you can do is advise & support him. Unfortunatly he may have to slide even farther & hit rock bottom before he decides to do this. The "I'm fine" mentality is a huge part of the illness. A lot of times when the BP person cycles into the manic stage they think because they are feeling fine they don't need there meds. My wife was on the verge of me calling the police & sending her to jail before she finally realized that she had to get a grip on things. I was always having to hear the same things from her that you have heard from you hubby. I am sure there is a lot more that you left out, but believe me I & many of the other spouces could probably guess what you are going to tell us next.
My point after much rambling is this. Coming here & joining up will be a great move for you. Being able to vent things out to people who have been thru it & fully understand where you are coming from helps like you would not believe. Until I joined here & posted & responded with people, I thought there was no way that anyone else could be going thru what I was. But finding out different has become a great comfort. Please be sure to come back often & keep in touch & we will help any way we can.
I'm glad this site is starting to help you cope with things. One of the best things you can do is just come here & read others postings. Even if you don't post anything, just reading what others have will give you tons of insight.
I wish I could tell you there was one easy thing to do to make him see he needs help. Like I said before a lot of times they have to hit rock bottom & be forced into getting help before they do. We have went thru 3 hospital stays in 3 months time, a trip to the er, near seperation, & a button push away from a trip to jail for her before she finally got a grip. I don't know if it was her meds finally getting ahold, or her realizing she was about to lose everything. But thankfully things have been pretty calm for the past few months.
Please feel free to ask me anything & I will try to answer as best I can. Don't be afraid to ask some really personal stuff if you need to, we are all very open here & aren't afraid to ask or answer anything.
If you want to read all the threads I have started myself, go to the topics page & at the top left next to the new topic button there is a sort by pulldown. If you sort by "started by" mine will be on page 87. You can read all the things I have started & the replies to them, you might find some things that can help you there. Like I said at the beginning, read, read, read, & post & ask questions when you feel like it. You will be amazed at how much it helps.
glad that I could help. I know how hard it is when you are first trying to face down this condition that your loved one has. Before I came here & read others stories & started asking questions, I had no clue. I thought that my wife's condition & symptoms were unique & nobody else could have possibly been goin thru what I was. But as you can see, we are all going thru basically the same thing in varying ways. Reading what others have gone thru has helped me to see the difference in whether her behavior is something to do with the condition or if it is something else. Before I came here & seen the patterns & other behaviors I honestly thought that my wife had just setttled into becoming a bitter, hate filled mean, selfish person. But now I know that it is what the untreated condition had turned her into. Now that she has gotten help & followed her treatment plan her p-doc & therapist had set for her, she is doing so much better. The meds make her sleep a lot, but I'll take that over screaming matches a couple times a day & a constant vibe of hatefulness coming from her.
stay in touch & best wishes,
BD- Good to hear things have settled down for you & sound to be going well. Don't be a stranger!