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BD_spouse
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   Posted 3/27/2009 10:56 AM (GMT -7)   
My dh got some really bad news yesterday.  His nan has cancer on her lungs and is being put into hospice.  He is SO close to her and it's hit him really really hard and i'm fearing a bad depression from this considering his grandpa just passed a month ago (his nan's ex husband).  Can meds help him through this or what can I do.  He's already not wanting to leave the couch again.
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sukay
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   Posted 3/27/2009 12:19 PM (GMT -7)   
BDspouse,
 
I'm really sorry to hear about your husband's pain. To me, bipolar or not this is a very difficult and depressing situation for anyone to deal with. I would suggest that you just give your husband time to mourn and just be as supportive as you can.
 
Encourage him to mention what he is dealing with right now at his next appointment with his pdoc and therapist.  This way they are aware of things and can look out for him as well and adjust his treatment accordingly if need be.
 

stkitt
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   Posted 3/28/2009 9:12 AM (GMT -7)   

BDspouse,

I am sorry to hear your hubby got that bad news but it may help to try to get him to talk about his feelings and  get him off the couch if you can.

I agree with sukay, anyone would react to news such as he received but to people with depression it can hit harder as it is another thing that causes sadness and your love in supporting him is admirable.

You are one special person.

Take care
Kitt


 

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Rocketman
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   Posted 3/28/2009 9:49 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey BD;

I am so sorry that you guys have gotten this news. This would be a tough lump to take for anyone after just losing someone like he has. Try to encourage him to go see her as often as possible & enjoy the time with her that is left (not trying to be negative, just realistic), of course you will have to be very tactful in doing this & no doubt it will be hard on him. Try to keep him busy & get him to do some things to keep his mind off of things. There may be some meds that can help, but I think just trying to not let him slip into a funk is the biggest thing, but that may be unavoidable. We are all thinking of you both & will try to help you out as best we can.

Take care,

Rocket


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