I need some unbiased 3rd party advice here on my husband.
As some of you may know I am currently physicaly sperated from my husband. I'm living with mom tyring to foucs on recovery from a serious bout of depression (which he now awknowleges he tried to ignore but watched me totaly fall apart) and he is living near by with some friends. I moved from NC to FL to be with mom and a better health care system that is treating me sucessfuly.
My husband and I seem to be getting into a fight, I'm trying not to respond but he seems to be trying to get a rise out of me and/or being selfish and a cry baby. Here is the scenerio...
I was going to hang out with him and some friends tomorrow, but a close family friend is throwing a BBQ for his daughter's birthday I found out a few hours ago. I cancelled my previous plan to attend the party. My husband then sends me an email basicaly whining that he hasn't seen me in two weeks and I should make more of an effort. I emailed back pretty much saying...you can come and visit me ya know (he won't because he won't go near my mom).
I got an email back (written mostly in caps lock) that pretty much went like this....I'd pick you up but your mom is there...I drove down following you from NC to be near you (which I didn't ask him to do), I've given a mutal friend a hard drive to put in your computer for you (which I didn't ask him to do), and I shouldn't be lying to my mom that i've seen him (a whole of twice in 3 months and its none of her business; also comming from the guy who wants me to go down the street for him to pick me up because he won't come near my house). and is upset cause I keep standing him up (the last two weeks i was supposed to go to our friend's house to hang out but last week my meds made me sick and like i said this week is a party, and its not like we're going on a date or anything we're just going to watch tv at a friend's with abut 6 other people).
I'm still very upset over it (I have not responded to this last badgering of emails cause i'm just ready to quit on the relationship) but I wanted a second opinion. Is he being selfish and bratty or is it just in my head?
And i'm not painting him in a bad light i can copy/paste the email as proof that i'm not putting words in his mouth. I think hes trying to give me a guilt trip when I am completely the opposit feeling. Hes gotten his dream job making ALOT of money (which he dosn't use to help support me in any way; and I can't work and my mom who has been supporting me looses her job and the end of this month), hes surrounded by friends (I only have one i see once a week if i'm lucky), and he has heath benifits (and won't put me on the plan with him).