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poodles
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   Posted 3/30/2009 9:16 AM (GMT -7)   
So many of the threads from spouses of people with BP have opened my eyes to my husband. So many of the complaints are the same. He says that I can out argue him anyday. Thank you all for posting. I am going to try to get him to come here. It might help him. Right now I am fairly even, a little depressed. I have been having a bout with my fibromyalgia for several weeks, and that kinda brings me down.
Just wanted to share that I get where the spouses are coming from.
I always commit to do better, but when I am in a chaotic state, I seem to lose control. I do better now than I ever have...probably due to finally finding the right combination of meds.
Vickie
Fibromyalgia, Bipolar Disease, Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, Clinical Depression, Arthritis, High Blood Pressure, etc.
Who ever knew I would be defined by my diseases??


olivia of course
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   Posted 3/30/2009 9:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Vickie,

I am glad that you found the support you are looking for here, it is important to have a support system. Finding the right meds makes a lot of difference, I am glad you found something that is working for you. I am sorry you feel a little down, hopefully you will feel better soon.

Olivia
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Abe12
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   Posted 4/6/2009 8:52 PM (GMT -7)   
That's awesome Vickie. It's great that you're willing to help your husband like this, and are able to admit that you can't do it on your own

serafena
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   Posted 4/7/2009 5:58 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Abe12,

Welcome to HealingWell and to the bipolar forum. It's good to have you. It'd be great if you started a new thread and told us a little bit about yourself.

Thanks,
serafena
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olivia of course
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   Posted 4/10/2009 3:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello Abe12,

I to wanted to welcome to HealingWell and the Bipolar Forum.

Olivia
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loving frustrated wife
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   Posted 4/10/2009 10:29 PM (GMT -7)   

Poodles, It is also my belief that a person with BP does better as soon as they are willing to see, acknowledge and OWN their own behavior and not put the onus of it on another. It sounds like you are there and can see how your condition plays out and what it must be like on the other side. By doing this, you are already seeing the overall picture and now all you have to work on is the actual work for yourself. You are no longer using up energy denying what is real. I think THAT actually helps BP's a lot. Good for you Poodles!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Great job!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Help me out everyone....is that true? When you finally own your condition, and don't waste time on shame, denial...etc., it frees you up to just focus on learning techniques for the behavior modifications or "overrides" of the impulses? You become better at observing yourself and can make better choices, and know when adjustments to meds are needed quicker? While my H is not really there YET....I still have hope that one day he will be! At least when he is willing to see himself a little clearer, or commit to watching himself closer for a time...things DO improve A LOT around here!!!!!!!!!!!! Yeah for therapy...we are in one of those moments now!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LFW


mommy.michele
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   Posted 4/13/2009 1:29 PM (GMT -7)   
LFW...you are absolutely right. A few months ago I actually began to "see" what my hubby has been trying to tell me for months. I was becoming very defensive, argumentative, and just overall annoyed with him. And for no good reason. Once I let go of that feeling of having to be right, and always feeling attacked....I was able to see that it was my brain playing tricks on me.
I do not think it is a medicine issue...and either does my md. But more of a learning/life change. Actually using the techniques taught to my by my therapist. How to calm down...step back and look at the situation from the outside and see all sides of it.
Impulse control is ahuge thing with BP I think....both with any addicitions.activities or just in the mind. Kind of like teaching your mind to go into another direction when confronted with something. It really is like learning all over again as an infant for me. Correcting over 20 years of a certain way of thinking.
"Just because you're in the driver's seat, doesn't mean
you have to run people over." ~ Fred Pausch

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