I know you probably feel like you are being selfish & not being loyal to him, but you have to remember that is isn't selfish to stand up for yourself & not put up with being treated in a way that is unacceptable to you. There is nothing wrong with being willing to take him back if he follows the treatment & takes his meds like he is supposed to. If he was willing to do that, then you wouldn't be where you are now though. But if this is what it takes to get him to realize this then so be it. My wife finally had to realize this when I finally put my foot down with her behavior. She kept threatening to leave & after I took her to pick up apartment applications & she realized she would be losing everything, she finally stopped. It has been several months & she hasn't made any mention of it since.
I know the tough love is hard, but sometimes it is the only option you have. Just remember that you have told him what it is going to take, the rest of it is up to him.
Thanks for responding,
Anyways, yes, I feel I need couseling, yet, seems like when I can begin some type of couseling, I begin employment which in turn takes away the counseling. I'm epileptic without transportation so I rely on public transportation (city buslines) or my own two feet. So it can get pretty hard getting around after work during rush hours, so I go straight home, to take care of the kids. (make sure of home work, etc.)
Besides, most of the times I already know what is gonna be said, what is expected on my part and what is supposedly expected on my spouses' part.
Not to offend anybody here, but I also carry certain religious beliefs that I struggle on a daily basis within consciencely. I try not to discuss too much knowingly with my spouse because she isn't quite the conversationalist in areas that are of my preference. She not political neither. Nor does she like to discuss academics and such the like, so what conversations do you think that goes on between her bipolar and myself? Yes, counseling? I'm very particular about who is able to counsel.