Welcome to healingwell and to the bipolar board.
You're not bipolar too. Bipolar isn't catching. If you are, it was there all along. No, what you are is a super-stressed out, over-burdened, under-supported mom of two with a bipolar spouse. You need help and I'm glad you made and appointment. I'm no doc, and won't try to diagnose you, but you need some therapy to help you deal with the huge responsibility and stress of living with a bipolar spouse. It's not easy. It's a commitment. And as you'll see from the others on this board, it's hard, it's nerve-wracking, it's unfair, it's often lonely. Therapy can help you deal with your own emotions about all that and give you some new ideas for how to deal with him.
Second, you sound like you might have some anxiety/depression issues on top of that and seeing a doc could hook you up with a prescription to help you deal with your own anger problems.
I'm sorry you're having such a rough time right now. Try and convince him to get his bp a little more under control as well. He shouldn't be screaming in front of the kids. Perhaps he could use some therapy too?
Co-Moderator, Bipolar Forum