Before divorce have you thought about hospitalization for him?
I will find a way or make one. –Phillip Sidney 1554-1586
All that I am and all that I shall ever be, I owe to my Angel Mother.
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Make sure your suffering has meaning…
Post Edited (MMMNAVY) : 6/9/2009 5:43:06 PM (GMT-6)
Thanks for all of your advice and support. I, too, just can't see how it makes sense to let him be rude or inappropriately negative to the kids without at least commenting that his behavior is probably influenced by his mood fluctuations. My kids are older (13 and 18) and so we've been able to talk openly and in depth about BP, just as we did about alcoholism when that became an issue. I can really empathize with wanting to present a unified parental front, but sometimes it just isn't possible. I appreciate the input from everyone, letting me know that I'm not alone in thinking this.
Interestingly, since my husband started on Abilify last Thurs., he has gone into a hypomanic state. He's a lot easier to deal with when he's that way than when he's depressed - he's pleasant to be around, and he's not rude or critical - but he's also very scattered and has trouble focusing on anything, whether it's finishing a sentence or cooking dinner (which he likes to do, and he is a trained chef, but he's prone to burning things and letting pots boil over when he's manic). Fortunately, he has another appointment with the np on Thurs., so maybe she will be able to work on his meds some more.