I've been married for 14 years and we have 4 beautiful children, ages 14 months to seven years. I am 44 and she is 40. Unfortunately, I am really nearing the end of my rope with my bipolar wife.
I knew she was bipolar and on meds when we got married. At the time, I thought no one is perfect and that at least she acknowledged her problem and was doing something about it.
She is a very good woman and she does an admirable job hiding her BP from the outside world. While everyone thinks she is wonderful and good-hearted, and she is, only I know the truth - that without her medication she would be a psychotic wreck (I know this for a fact; she went off her meds in 1998 and nearly landed in the hospital) and that at home, she is constantly irritated and moody, snapping at me and our kids.
But that's not the worst part.
The worst part is the side effects of her medication. She takes Zyprexa, Prozac and at least one other medication. Unfortunately, these medications knock her out. She is impossible to wake up in the mornings. She is so often late to work that she is on the verge of losing her job. I get up at 5 every morning just to start the ritual of getting her up and out of bed. She takes every opportunity to rest for a few minutes thereafter - even in the shower - and I have to wake her up all over again. And when she's finally out of the house, I have to get my kids up and ready for school. Then I have to get to work myself. I don't get home from work until 8 p.m. and have a long commute.
At night, she often just plops into bed at 8:30, claiming that her medication is knocking her out. She leaves me to put the kids and the baby to bed. And the next morning, I have to start the procedure all over again.
Can someone tell me if BP medication makes one so tired that all they can do is go to bed? I am angry at her because I feel that she isnt dedicated to her family, that if she was, she would fight her drowsiness long enough to take care of some of the kids. My son has already been kicked out of his swimming program on Sundays because my wife could not get him there on time for his lessons. Finally, the instructor cancelled the rest of his program, having been stood up too many times.
I can't function like this - I am not that young and I am not in great health myself (I'm hypothyroid, have asthma and have a heart valve problem that requires me to have regular visits to a cardiologist). I simply don't have the strength to continue like this.
Is my wife really getting this knocked out? Or is she just being lazy?