I'm curious about your husband. It's great he's watching your daughter for the past three years. But knowing that you have a mental disorder, shouldn't he be working harder to find a job? Why's he making you do all the leg work? Is there something we don't know? He does know you have bipolar but he's being mulish about trying to understand what that means. Go to the library and check a couple of books out. Find some relevant passages and make him read them -- try and SHOW him that what you do is part of your disorder. Or, as Snowy suggested, take him to the doc with you, but not your first appointment with this new doc. Keep on reminding your husband about your bipolar if you have to -- apparently he needs to be reminded that he needs to help you a little more.
Best of luck,
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