My advise is the same as I gave you at chat night...Hand over all the credit cards to your husband, delete all of the accounts that are in your name and if you need these accounts, have your husband re-establish them with his new password. This way, the only way you can purchase something you NEED is to have him log on with his new password and he will be aware of what you are purchasing.
You've already said that he is not working and you just lost your job and can not be working right now due to your health, so there is no way to be paying for all the stuff you are buying. Making things look pretty will just have to wait until you can afford it.
When is the next time you see your doctor? You need to let him know how serious things are going for you.
Wishing you wellness.
Bipolar - 2004
Crohns disease - 1995
Arthritis & Fibromyalgia