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loving frustrated wife
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   Posted 7/29/2009 10:41 PM (GMT -7)   

My GOD....I am so tired of being yelled at over and over again.  My youngest S has taken to yelling at me with a nasty attitude regardless of what I say (it has happened 8 times so far today).  Tonight my H is snarling at me and our older S over and over again claiming he's not.  My oldest S is begging for help acting like a victim about homework he waited until the last minute to do to prep for his final in summer school tonight, which is happening tomorrow....And I am out from work on STRESS LEAVE due to a boss who was so abusive verbally to me for so long that my nerves are FRIED! 

 

ALL I want to do is scream at everyone to shut up already.  Nastiness seems to rain around here and I am sick of it.  There is no pleasing anyone no matter how hard I work, I am suppose to be resting and thus far today I got up early to get one kid to summer school, 2 others to camp, made lunches, went to therapy this morning....ran back and forth across our town 6 times today (15 minutes each way x 12) just transporting kids, went grocery shopping, brought everything in and put everything away myself, did 5 loads of laundry, did the dishes my husband promised to do piled in the sink twice today, over saw the installation of our new dishwasher, made lunches for tomorrow, handled a work issue, studied with my oldest for his summer school final for 2.5 hours, made dinner, cleaned up after, refereed 3 sibling and 2 Father/child arguments, and again, I hit the end of my day not feeling loved by those around me, but snarled at.  Everyone disappointed in something they "claim" I failed them at (didn’t leave time for snuggles, didn’t give enough time  to help study, didn’t enter a room correctly to someone’s pleasing, kids didn’t like the way I put them to bed (never mind it was an hour late already….this list can go on and on)......Frustrated at this moment is about the nicest thing I can say to what I am feeling.  I feel like I am in a twilight zone episode and the JOKE is on ME!

 

Thank you for letting me vent.  LFW


sukay
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Date Joined Feb 2003
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   Posted 7/30/2009 1:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi LFW,
 
I'm really sorry!  Yeah, you're suppose to be resting while you're away from work...not stressing!
 
I can't remember, how old your sons are but you need to sit the whole family down even with your husband and explain to them the reason why you are home from work for a while.  Obviously your husband knows, and needs to stay on task and not take advantage of slipping his chores on you.  lol
 
Depending on their ages, maybe you can ask them to help you along.  Can they make their own lunches?  Can they chip in with the chores?
 
One thing I learned since being home vs working is that A LOT of stuff doesn't have to be done in one day.
 
For instance,...dirty dishes will ALWAYS accumulate...so what if they sit there for a while.  Keep them soaking in hot water until someone can do them.
 
I started to do one load of laundry a day until I felt better to handle more.
 
I know your son needs your help with school, but he needs to understand the consequences of what happens when you put things off until last minute.  My son failed a class because of his lack of involvement and then I made him re-take it during summer school and told him ahead of time that if he slacked off again...he would just have to take it AGAIN and that I wasn't going to let it go!
 
Who was chauffeuring the kids back and forth while you were at work?  As far as work was concerned, you're on leave (they were rude in calling you.) I would suggested that you start to screen your calls and call them back when the time is best for you,...if you call them back at all.  I cannot believe they did that to you, knowing your situation.
 
Time to have a talk with your family and let them know the seriousness of you being home.  Let them know you're NOT on vacation but suppose to be getting your rest and not stressed out and that EVERYONE needs to pull together. 
 
Maybe you can share with them of how your day went like you did tonight with us. I'm sure if they heard all that you had to do, with how ill you are, that they would be more sympathetic and helpful around the house.  You'd be surprised how much even the little ones would help out.
 
I think you need to find a new rhythm now that  you are home.  Take things slow!
 
Good Luck. Keep us posted!
 
(((Hugs)))
P.S.   I can't remember,...does your husband work?  He should really help out more regardless.  He is not a child and should understand the situation. rolleyes

~sukay~
 Bipolar - 2004
     Crohns disease - 1995 
Arthritis & Fibromyalgia 
 
Leo Buscaglia


missflip
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Date Joined May 2008
Total Posts : 163
   Posted 7/30/2009 9:16 AM (GMT -7)   
How about a Calgon bath to relax and deep breathe? Do you have 20 minutes to just take a bath???????????? That would help you a little anyway. Or can you take a 10 minute walk? Anything to help you breathe and relax a little?

Hugs,
Missflip
"I'm not crazy; I'm just a little unwell."  Matchbox Twenty


yo-yoangel
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Date Joined Jul 2009
Total Posts : 3
   Posted 7/30/2009 5:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Vent, vent, vent! For tomorrow will be a better day.

Retta
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Date Joined Jul 2009
Total Posts : 7
   Posted 7/31/2009 12:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Your family clearly doesn't appreciate what you do for them and it sounds like it is time to start looking for a different job. Your husband is not setting a good example for your children.

Sending you support and wishes for calmer days!

Retta
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