sad65. it is a common problem when being on meds for bp to have a lowered libido. You and your wife would probably benefit from couples counseling so you can be in a neutral place to be able to bring up your concerns. As long as you both understand that the lower libido comes with the territory for many with bipolar. You as a spouse need to be able to let your frustrations out too.
It is true for many in the bipolar boat to have diminished libidos. And trust me...as much as you are frustrated, it is frustrating for us too.
"Just because you're in the driver's seat, doesn't mean
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