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Whyus
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Date Joined Dec 2008
Total Posts : 94
   Posted 8/16/2009 12:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello all.  I've been busy working all summer and things for the most part have been calm with my bp h with the exception of one blow up he had a few weeks ago.
 
He did take me on a date last night, but it's so awkward.  According the therapist we aren't allowed to talk about work, kids or money.  Of course I blew it and started to talk about work and we talked about the kids.  Whatever.  It's like trying to get to know him all over again.
 
Anyhow, so he's gonna be home with our three kids for the next three weeks that he's on vacation.  I'm soooooo dreading it because I know he's gonna lose his patience  at least twice a week.  I have to work and am not able to take ANY time off until December.  Any suggestions for making these next three weeks less stressful on him with three kids would be appreciated.
 
I already have in mind to plan some "field trips" for them to different "free" places along with snacks and lunch to take along.  And of course I'll be praying every minute of the day that he and the kids are ok.
 
We haven't been to the therapist in a few weeks because it's just been a crazy summer and all schedules are screwed up- the kids', his and mine.  Once school starts back up in Sept, we'll resume our sessions.  He continues taking his meds... religiously.  He is bumbed about the weight gain.  I keep telling him I still think he's hot.
 
He did share with me that he's been having dreams about me going off with some other man and leaving him and kids behind- which I WOULD NEVER EVER do- not yet :) J/K.  As hard as it is dealing with his bp, I keep reassuring him that I'm sticking with him through this crummy illness and that I will support him all the way through and that I love him. 
 
He's been trying.  He did agree to go to marriage counseling.  He does take his meds.  He does flip out once and awhile and do let it go.  He does NOT know how to apologize after he flips out.
 
There's somewhat of an update.  Hope you all are well. 
 
-Whyus
 


serafena
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Date Joined May 2007
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   Posted 8/18/2009 10:50 AM (GMT -7)   
Whyus,

I'm so glad to hear from you. You are still struggling right along aren't you. It's not easy. I'm glad you went on a date, but you're still learning to trust and how to live with this man. You're doing good. You really are.

Take care, keep going. You can do it.

serafena
Serafena
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Bipolar II


Whyus
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Date Joined Dec 2008
Total Posts : 94
   Posted 8/18/2009 10:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Serafena!  So my prayers have been answered!  My hubby got a new assignment and will be going back to work next week!!!  Routine is important for a bp h like mine- keeping busy at work- without too much stress- keeps him from creating lists of tasks to do or going off spending money!  Yay!
 
whyus
 


mommy.michele
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Total Posts : 369
   Posted 8/19/2009 10:18 PM (GMT -7)   
I am glad things are looking up Whyus!
"Just because you're in the driver's seat, doesn't mean
you have to run people over." ~ Fred Pausch


serafena
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   Posted 8/20/2009 5:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Hooray! What will he be doing? How are YOU?

serafena
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Bipolar II


sukay
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   Posted 8/21/2009 11:55 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Whyus,

I'm really glad things are starting to look up for you two and your family.

I think it is a great idea that you are making an itinerary  for your husband and kids.  You're so sweet and I'm sure that will help him to stay focus and your kids to have an idea of what to look forward to.

Glad to hear that he has got a job that he likes.  Things really seem to be looking up.  Yeah, I would encourage to keep the counseling up once things settle down.  It is very important especially since he will have a little more stress with getting back into the work routine.

Good for you for all of your support!

Hope things to keep looking upward for all of you. blush


~sukay~
 Bipolar - 2004
     Crohns disease - 1995 
Arthritis & Fibromyalgia 
 
Leo Buscaglia

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