Wife is having another Manic episode I am just exhausted at this point ready to give up

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Sunday Morning
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   Posted 8/19/2009 9:25 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been living with someone now for 15yrs with Bipolar II - rapid cycling, she was diagnosed BP 4 years ago but while pregnant and nursing there were no symptoms (best 8 years of my life with her - we have several kids). My wife is taking prozac for clinical depression for roughly 18 years. 4 years ago we went for marriage counseling and after several visits the therapist recommended that she go to a psychiatrist. It was then confirmed that she was bipolar II with rapid cycling. My wife was put on seroquel and continued with prozac. The seroquel put her in a zombie state it was aweful so she stopped taking it and of course stopped going to the psychiatrist. Currently she is only taking prozac which she increased her dosage on her own. I have tried to get her to go see a psychiatrist but she is dead set against it and believes she has no problems at all. I am well aware of her behavior changes and can identify immediately when she starts to enter a manic state which she is currently in - It always ends up that I am the only problem in her life ..... on and on with random insults etc.- I am exhausted and feel I have lost the person I once loved so much it has been a gradual wear like a river over stones. My thoughts are always at conflict and I can't stand that manic personality especially since she has rapid cycling I have to deal with it every other month it seems. Looking for direction.

mommy.michele
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   Posted 8/19/2009 10:09 PM (GMT -7)   
I am sorry you are going through such a rough time with your wife. Until she agrees that she needs more help there is not much you can do. When I was treated for only depression...and therefore only on an antidepressant, it really sent me into a tailspin. My mania got out of control. She really needs to also be on a mood stabilizer.

This process takes patience as sometimes a mood stabilizer, or the combo with your antidepressant, might not work for you. So it is pretty much a wait and see, to see which med combo works for you. Hopefully you can convince her that she is worth it, to take the time to help herself enjoy life and those children more!
"Just because you're in the driver's seat, doesn't mean
you have to run people over." ~ Fred Pausch


serafena
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   Posted 8/20/2009 5:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sunday Morning,

Welcome to HealingWell and to the bipolar board. Let me echo what mommy.michele has already said. It is important that she see a psych, so keep working on her about that. Anti-depressants alone (like Prozac) can CREATE mania in bipolar patients. So I know she is resistant, but she really needs to be on a mood stabilizer along with the prozac.

I know how hard it can be to stick it out. You're here and you've read the posts, so I'm sure you've seen the many posts from others who are in similar situations. Bipolar is debilitating for EVERYONE involved. I highly recommend therapy for both patient and spouse.

Good luck,
serafena
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BPWife
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   Posted 8/20/2009 12:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sunday Morning,
Welcome to HW! I am also the spouse of someone with BP and I find great relief and comfort on this site - I hope you do as well.

My husband suffers from the mania side of BP and for many many years he refused to take his meds and see a psychiatrist. After a very tough patch this past late April, he finally decided to become compliant with his meds and seeing a psychiatrist. I don't know if it was my tough love or if he came to the realization on his own, but he's now "on the regiment" as he calls it and we're very happy. But like mommy.michele said, you can't do anything until your wife is ready to accept and get help, there's not much you can do. And believe me, I know how much it can hurt just waiting for someone you love to reach out for help.

Like the above comments said, your wife needs to go back to a psychiatrist to get the right prescriptions. She should NOT be deciding her own dosage either. I also think you should look into getting your own therapist. As the spouse of someone with BP, you need to vent so someone who is a professional and can help you work out all of your thoughts, concerns, issues, fears, etc. I have my own therapist and it helps a lot. I started going before my husband did and I think it also gave him the courage to go.

My husband also tried Seroquel and hated it. He too felt like he was in a zombie state for the entire day after he took it the previous night. Currently he is on lithium (mood stabilizer) twice a day and that is what he is 100% compliant with. He was also prescribed Zyprexa. Because Zyprexa does not require the build up that lithium does, he is allowed to take it when he feels he needs to take the edge off. For him it starts working in under 24 hours. He likes the Zyprexa a lot because he does not wake up tired. I'm not saying it's the right med for your wife but if she ever gets back to the pyschiatrist it might be something you could ask about.

I wish you all the best. I know how hard it is.

BPWife

Sunday Morning
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   Posted 8/20/2009 8:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you everyone, she is just coming off the manic cycle and we are discussing going to a psych.. although we have been down this road in the past I will now try and make the appointment for her. Last time we found 3 different psychiatrists and she promised that she would go but BP's always have the best intentions and seem to rarely follow through. I love her dearly and think we are ready to start talk therapy and get her a psychiatrist - I am hopeful that she can find a medication that will not make her a zombie and that she will follow the regiment. I can recall when she was increasing her dosage of Prozac on her own and that was one difficult time. I believe she will miss the manic state and that is why she is not 100 percent committed to deal with her condition like so many other BP's - thanks again everyone - Sunday Morning
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